“If there is to be a future, it will wear a crown of feminine design.” Sri Aurobindo
What did Sri Aurobindo mean by feminine? He meant women and the deep feminine within us all, that is our psyches, or ‘souls’. It is vital that the feminine ‘rise’ as the masculine has been dominant for too long and this way of thinking and acting is destroying this planet!
I take this moment to reflect upon the world as it stands on the precipice of an uncertain future, which could mean the end of life on this planet! With rising political tensions, environmental degradation and destruction, a lack of fresh water for half of the population, and the threat of nuclear war on our doorstep, this is not a time to be nonchalant nor complacent. It is up to each and everyone of us to put aside our self-serving tendencies and differences, and to find common ground in which we all share. The Earth is one Earth, with finite resources, and if we destroy it, we destroy ourselves.
Divide and conquer, winner -loser mentality and actions are not the answer, as these strategies are steeped in domination, insecurity and selfishness. What the world needs is sharing and caring and this can only come about by the rise of the deep sacred feminine within us all, and the respect of the Earth which is our home!
The deep sacred feminine does not war, as it sees itself in each and everyone, yet this has to be integrated deep within the psyche of all people. The deep feminine respects nature and knows that it is a cosmic being. Recent women leaders like Margaret Thacher, were not leading from the feminine, she was leading from her masculine (animus) and in fact had to subjugate her feminine(anima) in order to play politics in a ‘man’s world!’ The true deep feminine accepts difference, embraces relationship and connection, and sees the pattern that connects everything with each other, part of the whole.
In a time before written records, society was centered around women. Women were revered for their mysterious life-giving powers, honored as incarnations and priestesses of the great goddess. They reared their children to carry on their line, created both art and technology, and made important decisions for their communities. This was from the Paleolithic era, 1.5 to 2 million years ago, until sometime around 3000 BCE.
This can be seen in the many hand paintings and petroglyphs in caves, which were done mainly by paleolithic women, https://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2013/10/131008-women-handprints-oldest-neolithic-cave-art/and all of the artifacts of statues found of this time which show the great nurturing and procreative mother! Other civilizations like the Minoans that were relatively peaceful, were also very feminine, as can be seen by artifacts of full breasted women and on frescoes, and limited fortifications!
The Venus and the Sorcerer: Chauvet cave, France c. 30,000 BCE
“Venus” of Willendorf c. 24,000-22,00 BCE (Oolitic limsetone 11.1 cm high)
(Naturhistorisches Museum, Vienna)
Yingana, Creation Mother, carrying lots of dilly bags full of babies, painted by the aboriginal people of Australia. She is believed to be the first female ancestor who landed upon Australia from the North c. 20,000 BCE. Gunbalanya, NT, Australia.
Goddess Walu ( the sun) and her daughters, and one son. She Who, with Her Sister Djunkgao, were known as the Djanggawul, they were dual Goddess of fertility and procreation; daughters of the sun; the mothers; those who gave birth to the Australian Aboriginal people; Those who, in the Dreamtime, came from Bralgu, the island home of the dead, following the path of the morning star: The Nourlangie Rock Art Site in Kakadu, NT, Australia c. 18000 BCE
Lascaux cave Art and hand stencils done by women, France 17,000 BCE
A Minoan “Snake Goddess” or a priestess performing a ritual 1600 BCE
I don’t think this ancient era of the ‘feminine’ was one in which women dominated or ruled, as men do today. I think it was a shared experience in which the feminine was highly revered for her wisdom and guidance, her knowledge of the earth, and her creative powers; and, men were respected for their role of supporters of women and family, as well as hunters, tool makers, net makers and protectors. Yet, even so, women have always been protectors, especially of home and their children, and evidence supports that Neanderthal women were even hunters, like the men, as can be seen in their multiple bone fractures, due to close combat in bringing down the beast! Women also built homes, carried, gave birth, looked after children, made clothes, carry bags, tools, and caught fish, fowls, collected eggs and edible roots, ground seed and roots to make bread…so she has always had multiple roles.
Now, let’s look at our basic genetics, and what makes us similar and different from each other.
Both men and women have 23 pairs of chromosomes, 22 pairs of autosomal( non-sex determining) chromosomes, thus we share 95% similar genes, and one pair our 23rd pair of sex chromosomes, which identifies us as male or female.
Genetically speaking, the default sex is female, and we all start off female. Women have two X chromosomes as their 23rd pair of sex chromosomes, each containing anywhere between 3000-5000 genes, thus she contains 6000-10000 ( some of these are de-activated especially at the ends of the chromosome) sex genes; and a man has an X ( 3000-5000 genes) inherited from his mother and a Y (200 genes) inherited from his father, thus he has approximately 3200-5200 sex genes, and his Y chromosome is slightly less than 5% the size of the X, and basically contains testicles which produce testosterone and sperm.
As the X chromosome is 5% of our total genome (chromosomes), boys and men have 5% less genome than girls, as they have only one, and their Y chromosome is less than 5% the size of an X.
Having, two X’s, or being female, scientists equate with more connectivity in the brain as a girl/woman has a larger corpus collosum (organ at the centre of the brain) and more neural networks between both hemisphere of the brain, thereby she shifts back and forth, drawing on both the left and right sides. This results generally in better communication skills, and a more inclusive and less selfish (neural reward system of women is triggered by generosity) way of thinking. Having more of the brain connected also gives girls/women stronger emotional resilience, strength and maturity (she generally matures 11 years faster than men) and the ability to register emotional nuances better then men and greater intuition. Girls/women are also more adaptable (are much better at multitasking, and adapting to changing conditions then men). Having much less testosterone than men, she is also generally much less aggressive and controlling. Women have the ability to conceive, carry and nurse a child.
Having an X and a Y makes a boy and man’s brain connected(generally) more to the left side of the brain, making him more logical and matter of fact and selfish, as their neural reward systems are more stimulated by self-centredness. This also makes him better at doing things in straight lines like parking a car straight, and better able to focus on one task at a time, as he likes to compartmentalize. He generally also is better at coping in extreme stress situations, because he can shut down his emotions easier and/or he flees. He is also more aggressive, physically taller and stronger. Men have the ability to pass on their genes and spark conception.
In utero, we all start off with nipples, a clitoris, outer lips and a prostate gland (the X chromosome inherited from our Mother), and at 6 weeks gestation if we inherit another X from our Father’s Mother, then we also grow inner lips, a vagina, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries and become a girl, and upon adolescence we grow breasts. If we inherit a Y chromosome from our Father, then the testes attached to the vas deferens start to grow, the lips( labia) fuse and enlarge to become a scrotum, and the clitoris grows into a penis (with exactly the same amount of nerves as the clitoris) in response to the extra testosterone from the growing testicles, and we become a boy. Every man of European or Asian descent( which includes the first peoples of the Americas) has exactly, the same Y chromosome, and have exactly the same male ancestor who lived in Uzbekistan 40,000 years ago! That is because, it takes 40,000 years for the Y chromosome to change ( it makes exact cloned copies of itself ) though a mutation, and these are deduced through what geneticists call, ‘markers’. And, men from more recent African, Melanesian, or Aboriginal descendancy have basically the same Y as other men!
The Y is relatively new to evolution, having being created only 300-400 million years ago. Prior to that, everything was created through mitosis, in which a mother cell, divided and created daughter cells, exact replicas of herself. As the Y chromosome (which divides through mitosis too) takes 40,000 years to change, it is slow to evolve, and much of the Y chromosome is made of the repetition of the same genes, akin to a ‘hall of mirrors’! In women the X chromosome can recombine with each generation of female children, and thus evolves much quicker than the Y chromosome, and is less susceptible to disintegration and mutation.
As the Y chromosome lacks the ability of recombination (it can not combine with any chromosome other than the X chromosome, as it is alone and has no other Y chromosome to combine with) it is vulnerable to disintegration and mutation, as well as the fact that it drifts, and hitchhikes render the Y extremely susceptible to the propagation of mutations, as does the fact that testicles are carried in the scrotum and are therefore more vulnerable to environmental conditions and factors. The effect of the Y chromosome’s vulnerability to mutations has clear manifestations. Almost all de novo (new) mutations are derived from the father, not the mother ( Makova, K. D., and Li, W. H. Strong male-driven evolution of DNA sequences in humans and apes. Nature 416: 624–626, 2002 ). This may have been manageable if the Y chromosome rarely suffered such mutational wounds, but this is not the case. On the contrary, out of all the chromosomes, the Y is the one under the most constant bombardment and degeneration. (Graves J. Repr, Fert and Dev 16: 527-34, 2004.). Infertility rates in men have increased and sperm count in men has been lowered by 50% in 50 years!
According to many geneticists the debate continues as to whether or not the Y chromosome is is on the way out, as its size continues to diminish! Is the Y chromosome disappearing? Both sides of the argument: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007%2Fs10577-011-9252-1 It has been proposed that men and males may be gone in as little as 125,000 years (according to Sykes, the author of the controversial Adam’s Curse), and that we may become a new human that can regenerate without the male, as some other species already do! Please read: Size matters: The impending death of the Y chromosome.http://www.scq.ubc.ca/quarterly016/0106lam.html
Thus, evolution all began with the X, the feminine, and the X is the dominant sex chromosome in both sexes, and it shows no sign that it is disappearing.
However, saying all that, psychologically we have attributes that are both masculine and feminine, just as we both have the physical hormones oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone. In alchemy, sulphur is the masculine principle, whilst mercury the female. Sulphur and Mercury are also equivalent to Sol and Luna – sulphur, being fiery and active, represents the sun, while mercury, being liquid and passive is the moon. These differences are often reversed in non- European mythologies. Carl Jung, the 20th century psychologist, who coined the terms archetypes and collective unconscious, said that, the psyche is such that it contains and embraces both the feminine and masculine. And, that it is inherently an androgynous entity regardless of what the gender of the physical person is. Both sexes consequently, are both masculine(animus) and feminine( anima) primary anthropomorphic archetypes of the unconscious mind. To say it simply, the “anima/animus” is the mirror image of our biological sex, that is, the unconscious feminine side in males and the masculine tendencies in women. The psyche of a woman contains masculine aspects (the animus archetype), and the psyche of a man contains feminine aspects (the anima archetype). Jung said, that we need to integrate both our ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ aspects, in order to be ‘whole’ person, psycho-socially whole, not fragmented. Consequently, we need to love both our feminine and our masculine natures.
During the last 5000 years, particularly with the construction of monotheism, and a supreme male godhead, invented for the first time around 1300BC, the world has been predominantly patriarchal, much to the detriment of our natural evolution, women and the environment. For, example, Hypatia, and Egyptian philosopher and mathematician, was the first recorded woman to make a substantial contribution to the development of mathematics and cosmology, and discovered that the Earth travelled an elliptical orbit around the sun, in around 390AD, 1200 years prior to Copernicus. Instead of being recognized for this discovery, according to an account from Socrates Scholasticus, during the Christian season of Lent on March 415, under the leadership of a lector, named Peter, these Roman Catholic men, raided her carriage, and dragged her into a nearby church, where they stripped her naked, and murdered using ostraka (roof tiles/oyster shells), tore her body to pieces and dragged her mangled limbs through Alexandria, then set them on fire. I think this is fitting description of how many women have been treated throughout Patriarchal domination and female suppression.
Archeologically, we see evidence of the changeover from astronomical, sun and moon worship to sun worship and astronomical worship, around 3000BC, with neolithic observatories, megalithic stone circles and mounds aligned to the sun, and sometimes to some stars. Prior to this time, monuments and megalithic stone structures were aligned primarily with the movement of the sun’s and predominantly with the moon’s cycles, and also with particular constellations. The oldest recorded calendar is at Nabta Playa, Egypt made 5000BCE. They aligned their central stones to the circumpolar stars, and the sky’s cardinal points, and when the sun was directly overhead, the stones cast no shadow, and this predicted the coming mid-summer rains, in which they relied upon. Also around 5000BCE we find the first cow monument found in Egypt, the early predecessor of the moon goddess Hathor. Other examples, can be seen with the Carnac stones, France, 5000-3000BCE, Dartmoor, stone circle and temple complex England, 4000-3000BCE ( archeologists suggest that this site may have been used for religious purposes for over 10,000 years), Rujum en-Nabi Shua’ayb or Jethro Cairn in Northern Israel c3000BCE. Archeologists suggest that it may have been erected to honour the ancient Mesopotamian moon god, ‘Sin’, one of the most important gods in Mesopotamian mythology, Sin, also known as ‘Nanna’, is symbolised as a crescent moon and is often depicted riding on a winged bull…
What caused this transition? No one really knows for sure, yet we do know that we were moving from a nomadic existence to one of a more settled, and larger communal existence, and with that came more social stratification.
Some examples, of sun worship, aligned to the equinoxes, include Stonehenge, in England, constructed, 3100-2000BCE, Newgrange Temple, Ireland, constructed c 3200 BCE, Ring of Brodgar and stone circle and henge, Scotland, constructed, 2500-2009BCE, Scotland, the Majorville Medicine Wheel, in Canada, constructed 3200 – 2500 BC, Peru’s Chanquillo constructed thirteen solar towers, used as a solar calendar around 500BCE, and later Peru’s Machu Picchu’s Temple of the Sun, was constructed around 1400 AD; El Karnak, Egypt, constructed 2055 BCE to 395 BCE, devoted initially to Hathor, then later to to the sun god Re, then Amun, the bringer of light, and in other incarnations, the creator of the universe. The magnificent temple at Karnak celebrates this unity through its enormous pillars, designed in harmony with the Sun and stars over a span of nearly 2000 years.
Historically, also around this time, 3100 BC Namur became the first King of Egypt, when he united both Upper and Lower Egypt, and thus the World’s first Nation state was born. In the case of the earliest Egyptian Kings, being mortal was not enough, and they needed to prove their divinity by exercising complete control over their subjects. Evidence of this can be found at Abydos, where the first Kings were laid to rest in huge subterranean burial chambers, with their courtiers. In the case of King Djer 3rd King of Egypt 3050BC, we find 587 courtiers accompanied him into the next world, as they believed in an afterlife. All the tombs were sealed over at the same time suggesting perhaps ritual sacrifice. Certainly, that power over life and death would give any King God-like status, and for a long time thereafter, the Egyptian people believed in the divine power of the King, that is until King Pepi 11 c2200 BC, the longest reigning monarch, when his old age and fragility showed the people that he was just an ordinary man, and Egypt plummeted into a dark age.
Then, in 2050 BC after Montuhotep 11 reunites Egypt, Thebes rises as the new spiritual centre, where Hathor( goddess of love, beauty, good food and motherhood) rises, as she did from the beginning of Egyptian civilization, and a new era of prosperity reigns in, with women and men enjoying equal status. Then, the Hykos invade and take over lower Egypt 1350-1250, and the Egyptians threw them out, back to Palestine, and the Kings once again ruled and Egypt entered their golden age.
Temple of Hathor at Dendera
In around 1300 BC monotheism, and a ‘male godhead’ was introduced for the first time. This can be attributed to Moses and/or AkhnatenAmenhotep IV; who may have been the same person according to Ahmen Osman in his book, Moses and Akhenaten: The Secret History of Egypt at the time of the Exodus.
Akhnaten abolished the multiplicity of gods and goddesses and introduced a single sun god, Aten, represented as a sun disk, with hands reaching down to Akhanaten and Nefertiti, his queen, and co-ruler, holding ankhs. Which meant in a nutshell that the only way that people could connect to god now, was through their intermediaries, Akhanaten and Nefertiti. The royal couple, sacked Karnak and its priests and seized the treasury, and then moved their new court to Armarna, which was then called Akhetaten, 400 kilometres up stream, and within 10 years had built a whole new city.
Moses, a prophet of Abrahamic faiths, told the people that there was only one god. He is honoured among Jews today as the “lawgiver of Israel”, and he delivers several sets of laws in the course of the four books. The first is the Covenant Code (Exodus 20:19–23:33), the terms of the covenant which God offers to the Israelites at biblical Mount Sinai. Embedded in the covenant are the Decalogue (the Ten Commandments, Exodus 20:1–17) and the Book of the Covenant (Exodus 20:22–23:19). The entire Book of Leviticus constitutes a second body of law, the Book of Numbers begins with yet another set, and the Book of Deuteronomy.
People in both instances, revolted against this new concept of only one supreme god, as it was so alien to their pantheon of gods and goddesses. In the case of Moses, the old testament talks of people continuing to pray to their idols, and in the case of Akhanaten and his Aten, after Akhanaten’s 17 year reign and death, Akhnaten was deemed a heretic and the city of Armana was destroyed, and the priests went back to Karnak in Thebes, the previous spiritual centre of Egypt, as it was for 2000 years, and their pantheon of gods and goddesses.
Monotheism was reintroduced, with Saul, the first King of Israel, c 1050 BC and still people revolted and protested, until, early Judaism around 1040 BC, introduced the Hebrew god, Yahweh or Jehovah, which remained one god among many (though the only god deserving worship). This halfway house towards monotheism is described technically as monolatry. But by the time the Hebrews are established in Jerusalem, from about 1000 BC, Yahweh is recognized as the only god. This is the beginning of true monotheism – a faith leaving everyone else with idolatry and delusion. This laid the foundations for Roman Catholicism, which led to forced conversions by newly emerging Christianity in the late 300AD’s, and the abdication of the Goddess in 325AD!
Akhenaten and Nefertiti and 2 of their daughters praying to the Aten,the solar disk God.
I think monotheism and a ‘male godhead’ was the beginning of the downfall of our psyche, causing a schism that split our internal world from our external world, between men and women, nature and man, causing much rift and conflict, as the facts in history show us.
History reveals the burning of the library of Alexandria (thousands of years of knowledge and history lost) by the Romans and early Roman Catholics, the forced abdication of the Goddess with the Council of Constantinople 360 A.D. and the Council of Nicea 325AD, the destruction of the Second Temple( Jewish) in Jerusalem by the Romans, who later made it into a Christian temple, which later became a Muslim Mosque, the forced conversions to Christianity and Islam, the ongoing crusades between Christians and Muslims, the 30 Years’ War between Protestants and Catholics, the further division of Christianity into Pentecostal, Latter Day Saints, Mormons, Jehovah Witnesses etc and the battles that still persist today between monotheistic faiths.
During the failing Roman Empire, Constantine 1, In 325 AD, called for a meeting of the early Catholic Church bishops to be held in Nicea to resolve some escalating controversies among the church leadership. Thus, at the Council of Nicea( based upon the teachings of Judaism), the early Catholic church bishops and Constantine 1 made Jesus, Christ. The word Chrestos existed ages before Christianity was heard of. It is found used, from the fifth century B.C., by Herodotus, by Aeschylus and other classical Greek writers, the meaning of it being applied to both things and persons. Chrestes is one who expounds or explains oracles, “a prophet, a soothsayer;” and chresterios is one who belongs to, or is in the service of, an oracle, a god, or a “Master” . The Greeks used both the word Messias (a transliteration) and Christos (a translation) for the Hebrew Mashiach (Anointed). The word Christos was far more acceptable to some Pagans who worshipped Chreston and Chrestos.
The story of the ‘Christos’ was also taken from ancient Egypt, and Persia. Ancient Christian texts, referenced the Egyptian god, Osiris, as Chrestos in the Vatican. His son, Horus was created by the virgin birth of his wife, Isis. The Greek god Dionysus, was a descendant of Zeus and a mortal woman Semele, a stark similarity of Jesus, who was a descendant of God and the mortal Mary. The Greek god Dionysus, was considered the God of the wine and could turn water into wine. Also, the god Mithra, who was worshipped in ancient Persia and even by ancient Romans hundreds of centuries before Christ, was also allegedly born on December 25, and once again to a virgin birth. Gerald Berry wrote in Religions of the World: “Both Mithras and Christ were described variously as ‘the Way,’ ‘the Truth,’ ‘the Light,’ ‘the Life,’ ‘the Word,’ ‘the Son of God,’ ‘the Good Shepherd.’ The significance of December 25 in religion is that it is the day when days finally begin to get longer in the northern hemisphere and stems from the days when people used to worship the sun as a God, relating to the Winter Solstice.
Later, the early Christian bishops, introduced Jesus’s resurrection and his “immortality’, even though there is no mention of this previously in any texts, and historically, the ancient Greek, Latin and Hebrew literature from Homer to the first century AD describe an arsenal of suspension punishments but none mention “crosses” or “crucifixion.” The first images of Christ and his supposed crucifixion is around 410 AD, with his arms outstretched, and not on a cross. Osirus…Mithras…Chrestos…Christ! They are all linked by the universal ☧ chi-rho and the snake entwined staff of Mercury & Aesculapius, one of the early progenitors of the Christian Cross. The Chi ro [☧] became an important Christian symbol when adopted by the Roman Emperor Constantine in the 300’s AD. Also, the crux ansata, was the Egyptian cross, which is generally associated with Hathor, the Egyptian goddesss of love, women, good food and joy, and Venus, the Roman goddess of love, and life. E. A. Wallis Budge (1904) postulated that the symbol originated as the belt buckle of the mother goddess Isis. . Thus, the pagan emblems were merely replaced by Christian symbols, and the new testament stories of Jesus dying on a cross were added later. Many scholars say that there is no truly compelling evidence to prove the historicity of Jesus’ resurrection. Yet, by doing so, it gave power to the Church leaders to control the flock and to bring in ever increasing numbers – and by executing people if they didn’t convert- thereby intensifying their feelings of guilt and shame associated with being human, unlike their prophet, who was now immortal. Now, the only way in which people could get to god was through Jesus!
The ancient Egyptian Crux Ansata
A Tyet Knot or Isis knot, from the Tomb of Tutankhamun.
Also, at the Council of Nicea 325 , the early Catholic Bishops debunked the goddess, got rid of the lunar virgin, mother and crone and replaced it with the father, son and holy spirit. This led further to the removal of laws and property to women, the making of women as property to men through the institution of marriage, the introduction of payment to sacred prostitutes- making them slaves to men’s lust and the demeaning of the sacredness of sex- the demonization of women, and the making of men as caretakers of the Earth, in which women were previously. This, within a couple of hundred years, led to Islam( which was essentially Christian and Jewish, as they were/are all based on the same texts), as people were wanting a mortal prophet, as they could not relate to an immortal one, which led to further fragmentation of monotheistic faiths and the further subjugation of the feminine, the dark ages, and the raping of the planet.
Things must not be reduced to a single, isolated principle, be it ever so noble or elevated. For always above and all, the whole is at stake. Fundamentalism in whatever form, solves no problems but only suppresses them.
Man, from the band Karinding Attack, which is bringing back deep ancestral knowledge, traditions and music from Java’s deep past, says,
“When Christianity and Islam came to my country, many customs were forgotten, and my country strayed from its path and lost its identity. They forget themselves and their country. People became poor, stupid and culturally deprived. People pray to religion, not God. People have made religion holy, not God. People rarely show the goodness or love of God, in this life, in people, in the World. People are stuck in rituals. They should be more religious and care about each other, nature and God. The inner spirit and wisdom of our deep heritage(prior to Christianity and Islam) appreciates universal humanity without restrictions, and this is what we need to return too.” Man- Karinding Attack
The world is dying, keynesian economics don’t work, and war only begets more war. Yes, the deep feminine needs to rise! Men have had 5000 years of leadership and it is now for change!
We can not continue as a species, with the mentality that only promotes war, self-serving, selfish ego-centric ways that grandizes what is fastest, biggest and physically strongest. Just because something is larger or quicker, or physically stronger, does not make it any better. Remember Aesops’ fable of the hare and the tortoise?
How can we change as a global community?
Firstly, we need to reinstate the ‘divine feminine presence’ back into our lives. Women are more important to this planet, as they carry life, give birth to it, look after and educate that life and do most of the fundamental caring and sharing to bring about sustenance and proactive change. It is mainly women at grassroots and at the forefront of peace movements and of the preservation of life!
In Anne Baring’s third talk for Schumacher College which addresses the Awakening of the Deep Feminine and the soul in the world today, and what the image of the Shekinah (divine feminine presence) conveys in the tradition of Kabbalah, she says,
“In the radiant light of the sea that she is, everything is connected to everything else, as through a luminous circulatory system, a limitless web of light. Moreover, the Shekinah is deeply devoted to what she has brought into being, as a mother is devoted to the well-being of her child. The Kabbalah describes the feminine aspect of the godhead, as Mother, daughter, sister, bride, giving woman what she has lacked the last 2500 years in Judeo-Christian culture; the image of the divine feminine in the godhead, that is reflected into the human level itself…”
Secondly, we need dig deeply into history and to learn from our mistakes of our past. We need to look a the social constructions, demarcations that separates men from women, and puts them in societal roles which make them incomplete people.
Research on gender strongly suggests that many of the differences between men and women that we take for granted, are something we are taught rather than something we are born with.
According to Lise Eliot of Chicago Medical School, for example, infant brains are so malleable that small differences at birth become amplified over time through parental and societal reinforcement of gender stereotypes. Girls, Eliot holds, are not naturally more empathic than boys. They just get to practice these feelings more.
By age five, most boys and girls will have internalised the gender roles and expectations taught them by their families, schools, religions and societies. And in many instances, boys will have been socialised for violence by being taught that being a man means being tough, powerful, intimidating, and a stud.
While constructions of masculinity differ widely both within and between countries, it seems clear that some constructions of masculinity increase the chances of boys growing up to become violent men.
Essentially, men and women are more alike than we are different, and most differences are socially constructed, thus we should focus more on our similarities, and embrace our differences, and continue to redefine what it is to be human, rather than what it is to be male or female. No sex should be treated as superior to the other; judgements do not make for kindness, as each person experiences through their own filter of perception, and we are all on this Earth together.
If a woman wants to be a car mechanic because she is likes to work on cars and is mechanically minded, then she does not need to be criticized, nor called a ‘lesbian’ for this, especially, if she is not, as she is providing a service to the community. If a man wants to be a nurse because he is caring and loves to help sick people then he should not be criticized nor called a ‘homosexual’ because of this, whether or not he is or not! We are human, and together we can achieve a lot more, than fighting over who is superior, or what sex should do what!
It doesn’t matter what sex we are born with, or identify with, or what sexual orientation we choose or are innately born to experience. Research indicates that our sexual orientation and our sexual identity is based upon whether or not we are exposed to more oestrogen or testosterone in the womb. Those of us who are exposed to more oestrogen feel more feminine, and identify as being more female, irregardless of whether or not we are born into a female or male body. Those of us, who are exposed to more testosterone in the womb, feel more masculine, and identify as being more masculine, irregardless of whether or not be are born into a male or female body. Then, there are people who are born hermaphrodites, intersex people, who are born with both masculine and feminine genitalia, exposed to equal parts of both oestrogen and testosterone in the womb.
Evidently, bisexuality is prevalent in the animal kingdom — including courtship, affection, and parenting among same-sex animal pairs. As many as 1,500 wild and captive species have been observed displaying homosexual behaviors. This applies to both males and females of all ages and species, from the tiniest insects to the largest mammals, and we humans are animals too!
The recent emergence of the LGBTQ( lesbian, gay, bi, trans and queer) community is a wonderful thing, as it provides a more accepting platform, and challenges our societal masculine and feminine stereotypes.
For too long, men have relied upon women as back up, to do things for them (have their children, look after children, educate the children, do domestic chores and household accounts, look after elderly parents, and neighbours, look after a man’s needs, support a man in business or his job, do most of the charitable unpaid work in the community, and for a huge amount of emotional and sexual security). Women have done the bulk of the work in society, and men have received the kudos and rewards simply because they are men and because they have earned higher wages and thus a higher status! We should never simply be valued upon how much we earn, as that is ludicrous and so short-sighted. Many of the most important jobs -nurturing and life sustaining- that are done in the World are done from love with absolutely no payment! Men need to value and respect women more, for society would not have been able to move on without them.
Thirdly, many men need to embrace their own femininity, for 95% of their sex chromosomes are female! They are half female and 2.5% male. Why deny the bulk of who you are, just to fit a societal or religious norm, that is not serving the greater good or yourselves? Embrace your deep femininity, then you will be less reliant upon women to provide you with the things that you already have deep inside of you. Because many women are getting bored of your immaturity, and do not want to keep looking after you like a toddler! Having tantrums or getting aggressive, to get what you want is extremely immature. Not, that all men are like this however, as there are men who take responsibility for their actions.
There is nothing wrong with embracing the child within and having fun and being creative and loving, yet when one does not take responsibility for ones’ actions (many men only want to take responsibility for what they earn, and when things get tough they disappear), then men remain infantile Peter Pans, never to grow up! Many men need to stop denigrating women, and themselves, if they act from a more feeling, expressive and creative stance. Using derogatory language, such as ‘he is being a sissy’ or a ‘pussy’ only stifles men’s growth! Using derogatory language to demean women or beating them up, or raping them, does not make men superior, it just makes them nasty and abusive. Enough is enough! Grow up! Men, you are stronger emotionally than you think you are, just embrace your own femininity, and respect women more!
We all have a good side and a bad side, and it is up to us to choose what is right, and to be kind! 🙂
Fourthly, many men need to overcome their sense of entitlement for being men; those laws and societal expectations that came out of religious dogma made up by men, and laws created by men in order to enslave women and give men power and authority!
Our world is one in which social norms grant men authority over women’s behaviour. They encourage men’s sense of entitlement to women’s bodies, spread harmful notions of masculinity and enforce rigid gender roles.
When communities share expectations that men have the right to assert power over women and are considered socially superior, violence against women and girls increases (PDF). It creates a reality whereby men can physically discipline women for “incorrect” behaviour, one where sex is a man’s right in marriage.
These are examples of “social norms”, the unwritten rules which dictate how we behave. They are fundamental in allowing violence against women to flourish. And, it is these social norms which encourage violence against women that need to be confronted and changed.
One UN study found that, on average, men with gender discriminatory attitudes were 42 percent more likely to abuse their partners.
Fifthly, we need to stop the battle for control and violence by men perpetrated by their sense of entitlement, religious and societal norms, and their own desire to have a power trip! For as long as written records, men have fought and made wars, and believed -primarily, through religious, legal and societal dogma- that their sanctimonious superiority to women was true and this has been reflected through attitudes, laws and behaviours. How many men, use their superior strength as a justification to rape, beat up, pillage and plunder and subjugate women, in order to feel more powerful, just to have a power trip? Where are the ethics there? Have men no morality? Just because you can do it, does not mean you should do it and support it! Even today, domestic violence is rampant across many nations, and there is still a male bias in regards to rape in court!
- Men are the major perpetrators of violent crime. Data from the United States for the period 1980 to 2008, for example, shows that men were responsible for 90% of the murders committed during that period. In fact, the degree to which women are the victims of male violence is truly staggering. Women aged 15 to 44 worldwide are more likely to be killed or maimed because of male violence than because of war, cancer, malaria, and traffic accidents combined.
- The World Health Organization has found that domestic and sexual violence affects 30 to 60 percent of women in most countries. Everywhere, rape often puts the victim on trial. In Delhi, of 635 rape cases reported in the first 11 months of last year, only one ended in conviction. That creates an incentive for rapists to continue to rape, but in any case that reported number of rapes is delusional. They don’t include the systematized rape of sex trafficking. India has, by my reckoning, more women and girls trafficked into modern slavery than any country in the world. This is appalling and so so sad, and changes to laws are desperately needed, in order for every man to be convicted for this crime and pay the price of this injustice, as it should not be acceptable! Only then, will rape and domestic violence diminish.
- Why are men more likely to be violent than women?
2011 arrest data from the USA FBI:
- Males constituted 98.9% of those arrested for forcible rape
- Males constituted 87.9% of those arrested for robbery
- Males constituted 85.0% of those arrested for burglary
- Males constituted 83.0% of those arrested for arson.
- Males constituted 81.7% of those arrested for vandalism.
- Males constituted 81.5% of those arrested for motor-vehicle theft.
- Males constituted 79.7% of those arrested for offenses against family and children.
- Males constituted 77.8% of those arrested for aggravated assault
- Males constituted 58.7% of those arrested for fraud.
- Males constituted 57.3% of those arrested for larceny-theft.
- Males constituted 51.3% of those arrested for embezzlement.
Violence against women and girls: enough is enough!
True strength does not come through brute force, and history teaches us that the oppressor always falls, as all empires have fallen; “pride before the fall”. Anything born of force will not serve the test of time, this is a fact, a truth. True strength does not need to prove itself, nor does it control others in order to prove its strength, as it realizes that true strength is in controlling oneself. When one understands this, there is no desire to control others.
The need to control others comes from an inner place of insecurity and fear, in the mask of a overbearing pride and self-righteousness, in which the individual is so scared of the uncertainties of life, that he/she wants to control external people/events in order to feel in control, and to feel all powerful. Yet, in reality, this is deception, as they deceive themselves into believing that they are superior (they are always self-righteous, and therefore do not want to learn), have a false blown-up pride -self-agrandisement- and defense mechanisms which are compensation mechanisms for a feeling of emptiness, fear, lack and powerlessness on the inside. If anyone points this out to them, God forbid, they respond with anger, negative words and blame, projections of their own shadow self that they have denied, that they displace and put onto others. Or, they put the walls up and run away, if they have nothing to back up their ignorance!
This is not only unique to men however, as there are many women in denial about the truth of who they are too, because of societal/religious dogma; women can also be narcissist/sociopathic/psychopathic, yet generally the percentage is far less than men.
How many women place huge value upon their external looks (a societal expectation) at the expense of their inner lives? How many women subjugate themselves and their sexuality, in order to please and not offend men, thereby denying themselves their true nature and powerful sexuality, essentially what they need and desire? How many women put everybody else’s needs before their own? How many women appease men by telling them that they are superior, or at least making them think that they are superior, in order not to be beaten or demeaned? How many women look for men to be a wallet for them, hoping to gain material security through his earnings only, therefore denying their own ability to be creative, educated and to earn. Others, become abusers too and sycophants, the classic example being the psychic vampire, who drains others in order to get their own needs met, thereby controlling others, because of her own unprocessed insecurities! This applies to all types of sycophants of both sexes!
As women reclaim their power (which as been on the rise since the the suffragette movement in the late 19th century) there will undoubtably be a backlash against men, as there will be many angry women throughout the world, appalled by their lack of respect and the injustices done to them throughout the millennia; and there will be a rise of some violent women because of this. Most, however, will want their voices heard, and most importantly to be recognized legally, socially and politically. And, on top of this, they will act to create more positive change.
Thousands of Turkish women took to the streets of Istanbul on 8 March 2018, for the International Women’s Day demonstration, with the aim of demanding greater women’s rights and denouncing violence against them.
Some women may take on the more aggressive and controlling roles of masculinity in order to prove themselves powerful, in this still predominantly patriarchal world, no matter what some people say about the Patriarchy as dead.
The fact that men still control the the majority of top echelons of business, government, shadow government, economics and the creation of wars, and that most women still take on the brunt of care taking for children, aging parents and the communities in which they live, for little or no money; shows that men still rule and run the current world, in which status and the bottom line of money is everything! Yes, our current economic system needs a massive overhaul, as these thing are not truly valuable.
Sixthly, we need to re-orientate our value systems, to those that care, love, and nurture whole systems; as clean air, fresh clean water, good nutritious food, healthy people, families, communities and a healthy environment that sustains all, are worth fighting for, as these things are truly valuable. Women naturally, are at the forefront of caring for family, children, communities, the battle for land rights, forest conservation, and sustainable livelihoods all around the world!
We can witness the many great women leaders of our time, and I am greatly appreciative and respectful of the many women leaders, like Angela Merkel,German Chancellor, who through her brilliance and negotiation skills with Trump and Putin, is keeping war at bay and keeping the peace, the late Winnie Mandela ( died 4/4/2018) peacekeeper, who fought against aparteid, who worked beside her husband Nelson Mandela, and long after his death, Maj. Gen. Kristin Lund of Norway who lead the U.N. Peacekeeping Force in Cyprus, Jóhanna Sigurdardóttir, Premier of Iceland, Halla Tómasdóttir and Kristin Petursdóttir and other Icelandic businesswomen who lead the Icelandic rescue post meltdown, and how they are determined to reinvent business and society by injecting values of openness, fairness and social responsibility https://www.theguardian.com/world/2009/feb/22/iceland-women and all the many heroines of peace today and throughout history. https://peacekeeping.un.org/en/women-peacekeeping
Please read: The nine nobel women: https://www.nobelprize.org/nobel_prizes/themes/peace/heroines/
If some women take on this role reversal of violence in order to prove themselves viable in a ‘man’s world’, then this is part of the transitional period of challenging stereotypes, and again this is deception, and hopefully we will not get to see too much of this. Because, a complete role reversal in which women rule through force, and subjugate men, will only have the same results that women have already experienced for 5000 years, that of oppression, and abuse of power. It does not lead to any good! Nonetheless, I don’t think this will be the case, as women simply aren’t wired to lead through ego and control, as they are motivated by generosity.
Seventhly, many more women need to be in positions of leadership, in all levels of management, and particularly in upper management, where they are like ‘hens teeth’. The lack of women at the top is described as a “brain drain” and a crisis of “talent retention.” And while female CEOs may be rare in America’s largest companies, they are highly prized: last year, they out earned their male counterparts by 43 percent, on average, and received bigger raises.
Women tend to be better leaders than their male counterparts, finds Gallup. The survey discovered that employees who work for a female boss are, on average, 6% more engaged than those who work for a male manager. (Female employees who work for a female manager are the the most engaged of any group of workers.)
The survey also found that women leaders themselves tend to be more engaged (41%) than men (35%). The Gallup report says womens’ higher engagement levels likely result in more engaged, higher-performing teams.
Researchers at Columbia Business School and the University of Maryland analyzed data on the top 1,500 U.S. companies from 1992 to 2006 to determine the relationship between firm performance and female participation in senior management. Firms that had women in top positions performed better, and their staff were generally more happy, and this was especially true if the firm pursued what the researchers called an “innovation intensive strategy,” in which, they argued, “creativity and collaboration may be especially important”—an apt description of the future economy.
Most studies into middle management women, show them to be more inclusive, and creative than their male counterparts. They are more successful in gaining profits and cooperation from others, as they are generally better communicators, and don’t like to take unnecessary risks (in order to prove their manhood, like men do) nor do they lead through control.
Eighthly, at the crux of it all, we need to make fairer and more caring laws for all! At a political, legal and economic level we can make most laws non-gender specific, in which both men and women are treated equal by the law, irregardless of their sex. Laws which protect women from men’s abuse however, should be strengthened, as well as laws which protect the environment. We can make women’s wages equal to men’s wages, and legislate against the continually rising of corporate CEO’s wages- ‘lions share’ mentality which is making the majority more poorer-and remove loopholes which allow the ‘super rich’ to avoid paying taxes! We can have an equal representation of women in politics! Yet, most importantly, we need to put the environment first in politics, and not vote for any political party that denies climate change.
At a personal level, we can start by really ‘feeling’ things, reaching deep into our feelings, as this connects us to ‘love’ and our ‘spiritual body’, and helps us to know things. We can release ourselves from our fears and doubts(and this includes personal as well as collective), and know that knowledge is the antidote to ignorance. The truth is ‘out there’ and ‘within us’, and we need to learn discernment, not just feed into collective ‘beliefs’! We can experience ‘beingness’ more, by letting go of our need to continually ‘do’ and be ‘active’, as we can only hear ‘soul’, when we are still and quiet, and this is what gives us ‘inner peace’ and the clues to our purpose in life. We can spend more time in nature, doing our bit to keep it clean and to nurture it in our own small way. We can contemplate nature’s cycles and the beauty and gifts that are given to us freely. We can become more caring and giving. We can practice more gratefulness. We can see and experience the sacredness in all things, thereby abolishing religious dogmas and distinctions that separate people and cause conflict. As the ancient adage says, “all paths lead to god” and we can find god in the stillness of our beating heart, in nature, in the breathtaking expanse of the cosmos, where ever our heart feels happy.
Let’s take this moment to give reverence to the Earth that has given us life, that nurtures us and gives us a home; and let us give reverence to Source, which gave us our essence, the spirit that connects us all. Let’s remember to put the Earth first, directed by our soul and spirit, for if we do not, then there will be no future for this planet!
Just as we all have a Father and a Mother, it makes sense to love all men, women, boys and girls, and the feminine and masculine within ourselves and within others. Just as there is the sun, the moon, and the stars, and nature’s unfolding dance, it makes sense to love and cooperate with all of creation.
In order for the phoenix to rise from its ashes, it is vital that the deep feminine, that has been suppressed for so long rise, and it is rising quickly! Men have had 5000 years of rule, through subjugating and abusing the feminine and they have failed, through their lies, control, dominance, pride, greed and selfishness! Now, it is time for a change of guard, and it is up to women to lead with more inclusiveness, compassion and love.
The 21st century calls for a more feminine approach and women are on the forefront, taking on the challenges required, when they are not shut out by men (men’s clubs and groups that cause the metaphorical glass ceiling). So, move out the way men! Surrender your pride and unjustified dominance and welcome inclusion, you’ll be much happier, and the world will be a much happier and fairer place.
“It’s women’s work.. Oooh, it’s hard on the man, now that his time is over.” Kate Bush
Then, we can start on our collective fears related to religion, class, and skin colour, for we are more alike than we are not, and distinctions that separate people only create more fear and injustice.
Ultimately in the greater scheme of things, WE must all be true to ourselves, and embrace the non-judging, caring, intuitive, emotional, creative, unconditional loving part of ourselves and others. Unconditional love and compassion are the keys to our collective transformation, for after all, we are all in this together, sharing ONE WORLD. Let’s do this together!
“The courage to be yourself in a world constantly trying to shape you is my personal definition of power.” ― Kristin Michelle Elizabeth, This Will Set Me Free
* A report on the unprecedented role reversal now under way— and its vast cultural consequences: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/308135/
Peace and blessings, Bridget Cameron <3…
“All the queens will gather round
Spreading love and unity so it can be found…” Seal