“If there is to be a future, it will wear a crown of feminine design.” Sri Aurobindo
What did Sri Aurobindo mean by feminine? He meant women and the deep feminine within us all, that is our psyches, or ‘souls’. It is vital that the feminine ‘rise’ as the masculine has been dominant for too long and this way of thinking and acting is destroying this planet!
I take this moment to reflect upon the world as it stands on the precipice of an uncertain future, which could mean the end of life on this planet! With rising political tensions, environmental degradation and destruction, a lack of fresh water for half of the population, and the threat of nuclear war on our doorstep, this is not a time to be nonchalant nor complacent. It is up to each and everyone of us to put aside our self-serving tendencies and differences, and to find common ground in which we all share. The Earth is one Earth, with finite resources, and if we destroy it, we destroy ourselves.
Divide and conquer, winner -loser mentality and actions are not the answer, as these strategies are steeped in domination, insecurity and selfishness. What the world needs is sharing and caring and this can only come about by the rise of the deep sacred feminine within us all, and the respect of the Earth which is our home!
The deep sacred feminine does not war, as it sees itself in each and everyone, yet this has to be integrated deep within the psyche of all people. The deep feminine respects nature and knows that it is a cosmic being. Recent women leaders like Margaret Thacher, were not leading from the feminine, she was leading from her masculine (animus) and in fact had to subjugate her feminine(anima) in order to play politics in a ‘man’s world!’ The true deep feminine accepts difference, embraces relationship and connection, and sees the pattern that connects everything with each other, part of the whole.
The Great Goddess of antiquity
In a time before written records, society was centered around women. Women were revered for their mysterious life-giving powers, honored as incarnations and priestesses of the great goddess. They reared their children to carry on their line, created both art and technology, and made important decisions for their communities. This was from the Paleolithic era, 1.5 to 2 million years ago, until sometime around 3000 BCE.
This can be seen in the many hand paintings and petroglyphs in caves, which were done mainly by paleolithic women, https://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2013/10/131008-women-handprints-oldest-neolithic-cave-art/and all of the artifacts of statues found of this time which show the great nurturing and procreative mother! Other civilizations like the Minoans that were relatively peaceful, were also very feminine, as can be seen by artifacts of full breasted women and on frescoes, and limited fortifications!
The Venus and the Sorcerer: Chauvet cave, France c. 30,000 BCE
“Venus” of Willendorf c. 24,000-22,00 BCE (Oolitic limsetone 11.1 cm high)
(Naturhistorisches Museum, Vienna)
Yingana, Creation Mother, carrying lots of dilly bags full of babies, painted by the aboriginal people of Australia. She is believed to be the first female ancestor who landed upon Australia from the North c. 20,000 BCE. Gunbalanya, NT, Australia.
Goddess Walu ( the sun) and her daughters, and one son. She Who, with Her Sister Djunkgao, were known as the Djanggawul, they were dual Goddess of fertility and procreation; daughters of the sun; the mothers; those who gave birth to the Australian Aboriginal people; Those who, in the Dreamtime, came from Bralgu, the island home of the dead, following the path of the morning star: The Nourlangie Rock Art Site in Kakadu, NT, Australia c. 18000 BCE
Lascaux cave Art and hand stencils done by women, France 17,000 BCE
A Minoan “Snake Goddess” or a priestess performing a ritual 1600 BCE
I don’t think this ancient era of the ‘feminine’ was one in which women dominated or ruled, as men do today. I think it was a shared experience in which the feminine was highly revered for her wisdom and guidance, her knowledge of the earth, and her creative powers; and, men were respected for their role of supporters of women and family, as well as hunters, tool makers, net makers and protectors. Yet, even so, women have always been protectors, especially of home and their children, and evidence supports that Neanderthal women were even hunters, like the men, as can be seen in their multiple bone fractures, due to close combat in bringing down the beast! Women also built homes, carried, gave birth, looked after children, made clothes, carry bags, tools, and caught fish, fowls, collected eggs and edible roots, ground seed and roots to make bread…so she has always had multiple roles.
Human genetics and what makes females and males different
Now, let’s look at our basic genetics, and what makes us similar and different from each other.
Both men and women have 23 pairs of chromosomes, 22 pairs of autosomal( non-sex determining) chromosomes, thus we share 95% similar genes, and one pair our 23rd pair of sex chromosomes, which identifies us as male or female.
Genetically speaking, women have two X chromosomes as their 23rd pair of sex chromosomes, each containing anywhere between 3000-5000 genes, thus she contains 6000-10000 ( some of these are de-activated especially at the ends of the chromosome) sex genes; and a man has an X ( 3000-5000 genes) inherited from his mother and a Y (200 genes) inherited from his father, thus he has approximately 3200-5200 sex genes, and his Y chromosome is slightly less than 5% the size of the X, and basically contains testicles which produce testosterone and sperm.
As the X chromosome is 5% of our total genome (chromosomes), boys and men have 5% less genome than girls, as they have only one, and their Y chromosome is less than 5% the size of an X.
The only difference between male and female is in the 23rd pair of sex determining chromosomes. In females, the 23rd pair of chromosomes has two X’s, one X is inherited from both parents, and in the male he has one X chromosome inherited from his mother, and one Y chromosome inherited from his father..
* A karyotype is the number and visual appearance of the chromosomes in the cell nuclei of an organism or species. A karyotype can only be seen and studied with a microscope. To make karyotypes easier to understand, karyograms are often made. In karyograms, homologous chromosomes are put side by side and then arranged by size.
A karyogram of a male human.
A karyogram of a female human.
How are women different to men?
Having, two X’s, or being female, scientists equate with more connectivity in the brain as a girl/woman has a larger corpus collosum (organ at the centre of the brain) and more neural networks between both hemisphere of the brain, thereby she shifts back and forth, drawing on both the left and right sides. This results generally in better communication skills, and a more inclusive and less selfish (neural reward system of women is triggered by generosity) way of thinking.
Female brains utilize nearly ten times more white matter for activity, than males. White matter is the networking grid that connects the brain’s gray matter and other processing centres with one another. This profound brain-processing difference is probably one reason you may have noticed that girls tend to more quickly transition between tasks than boys do. The gray-white matter difference may explain why, in adulthood, females are great multi-taskers.
Scientific studies demonstrate how neural circuitry recruited during emotion processing differed between the sexes. Women showed neural activity in the anterior insula cortex, which processes bodily sensations. This means that they deeply experienced emotions within their bodies. This gives them greater emotional awareness especially into their own as well as others feelings, yet the downsize is that they may become swamped with emotion and get burn out during extreme situations. A good strategy for women and girls is to be more objective and distance herself from emotional drama and excess.
Having more of the brain connected also gives girls/women stronger emotional resilience, emotional strength and maturity (she generally matures 11 years faster than men) and the ability to register emotional nuances better then men, as men have problems recognising emotions in others faces and body language, unless it is extreme emotions.
Women also have greater intuition than men, and science now validates this. Women are better than men at reading thoughts and emotions by looking at someones eyes.
Researchers from across the globe, tested the way genes influence a person’s cognitive empathy; their ability to accurately recognise another person’s emotional state. Katrina Grasby from QIMR Berghofer said 90,000 people were shown different photographs of people’s eyes and asked to determine their mood.
Results showed women more consistently picked the correct feeling, and that females performed better than men on the test.”Using this technique, we can get a measure on how those people accurately perceive the emotion,” Ms Grasby said.
According to Dr. Orloff, scientists believe intuition operates through the entire right side of our brain, the brain’s hippocampus and through our gut (digestive system has neurons as well). And this is where it gets interesting for girls and women. Women’s corpus collosum, the connective white matter that connects our left and right brain hemispheres together, is thicker than men’s. This more substantial brain super highway gives us women better and faster abilities to access each hemisphere, further integrating emotions and gut feelings with the more logical left hemisphere into our decision making process. Basically women’s brains have superpowers and are actually optimized for rapid intuitive decision making. “Women are also psychologically more in touch with their emotions (perhaps because they’ve been given more cultural permission to be this way) and are more likely to integrate hunches, emotional ‘hits’ about people and logic. Because men have a thinner corpus collosum they are more compartmentalized in their thinking and less about to move back and forth from intuition to logic.”
Girls/women are also more adaptable, are much better at multitasking, and adapting to changing conditions then men.
Having much less testosterone than men, she is also generally much less aggressive and controlling. Women have the ability to conceive, carry and nurse a child.
How are men different to women?
Having an X and a Y makes a boy and man’s brain connected(generally) more to the left side of the brain, making him more logical and matter of fact and selfish, as their neural reward systems are more stimulated by self-centredness. This also makes him better at doing things in straight lines like parking a car straight, and better able to focus on one task at a time, as he likes to compartmentalize. Because men have a thinner corpus collosum they are more compartmentalized in their thinking and less about to move back and forth from intuition to logic.
Male brains utilize nearly seven times more gray matter for activity, then females. Gray matter areas of the brain are localized. They are information- and action-processing centers in specific splotches in a specific area of the brain. This can translate to a kind of tunnel vision when they are doing something. Once they are deeply engaged in a task or game, they may not demonstrate much sensitivity to other people or their surroundings.
Males are generally also better at coping in extreme stress situations, because he can shut down/detach his emotions easier and/or he flees. Scientific studies demonstrate that the neural circuitry recruited during emotion processing in men showed neural responses in the visual cortex. While processing these images, male brains immediately activated circuitry involved in regulating shifts of attention to the world (i.e., the dorsal anterior insula cortex and the dorsal anterior cingulate cortex). This allowed them to shift the emotional impact of the images away from themselves. This is good in extremely stressful situations, yet can make a man emotionally distant from himself and others and lack empathy.
Males are also generally more aggressive, physically taller and physically stronger. Men have the ability to pass on their genes and spark conception.
* These of course are generalisations between the sexes, as there are men who can multitask and are more empathic, just as there are women who are more task orientated and selfish.
The development of girls and boys in the womb, and differences in the X and Y chromosome.
In utero, we all start off with nipples, a clitoris, outer lips( labia majora) and a prostate gland (the X chromosome inherited from our Mother), and at 6 weeks gestation if we inherit another X from our Father, then we also grow inner lips ( labia minora), a vagina, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries and become a girl, and upon adolescence we grow breasts. If we inherit a Y chromosome from our Father, then the testes attached to the vas deferens start to grow, the lips( labia) fuse and enlarge to become a scrotum, and the clitoris grows into a penis (with exactly the same amount of nerves as the clitoris) in response to the extra testosterone from the growing testicles, and we become a boy.
Every man of European or Asian descent( which includes the first peoples of the Americas) has exactly, the same Y chromosome, and have exactly the same male ancestor who lived in Uzbekistan 40,000 years ago! That is because, it takes 40,000 years for the Y chromosome to change ( it makes exact cloned copies of itself ) though a mutation, and these are deduced through what geneticists call, ‘markers’. And, men from more recent African, Melanesian, or Aboriginal descendancy have basically the same Y as other men!
The Y is relatively new to evolution, having being created only 300-400 million years ago. Prior to that, everything was X, created through mitosis, in which a mother cell, divided and created daughter cells, exact replicas of herself. As the Y chromosome (which divides through mitosis too) takes 40,000 years to change, it is slow to evolve, and much of the Y chromosome is made of the repetition of the same genes, akin to a ‘hall of mirrors’! In women the X chromosome can recombine with each generation of female children, thus evolves much quicker than the Y chromosome, and is less susceptible to disintegration and mutation.
As the Y chromosome lacks the ability of recombination (it can not combine with any chromosome other than the X chromosome, as it is alone and has no other Y chromosome to combine with) it is vulnerable to disintegration and mutation, as well as the fact that it drifts, and hitchhikes render the Y extremely susceptible to the propagation of mutations, as does the fact that testicles are carried in the scrotum and are therefore more vulnerable to environmental conditions and factors.
The effect of the Y chromosome’s vulnerability to mutations has clear manifestations. Almost all de novo (new) mutations are derived from the father, not the mother ( Makova, K. D., and Li, W. H. Strong male-driven evolution of DNA sequences in humans and apes. Nature 416: 624–626, 2002 ). This may have been manageable if the Y chromosome rarely suffered such mutational wounds, but this is not the case. On the contrary, out of all the chromosomes, the Y is the one under the most constant bombardment and degeneration. (Graves J. Repr, Fert and Dev 16: 527-34, 2004.). Infertility rates in men have increased and sperm count in men has been lowered by 50% in 50 years!
In regards to recombination of the XX in female and XY in males.
First, a few basic premises:
- A man has one X chromosome.
- He gets his single X chromosome from his mother. The X chromosome is NOT passed from father to son.
- A woman has two X chromosomes – one from her father and one from her mother.
- The X chromosome a woman gets from her father is an exact copy of his X chromosome (which, as noted above, he got from his mother).
- The X chromosome men and women get from their mother is typically some combination of their mother’s two X chromosomes.
Thus, a woman’s X X chromosomes can recombine, taking genes from both mother and paternal mother’s genes and passing them on to her daughter, whilst her son will only get a direct copy of his mother’s X genes( a combination of her mother and her father’s mother’s), and he can not recombine his X with anything but the Y chromosome; and can only pass on his mother’s X genes to his daughters.
According to many geneticists the debate continues as to whether or not the Y chromosome is is on the way out, as its size continues to diminish! Is the Y chromosome disappearing? Both sides of the argument: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007%2Fs10577-011-9252-1 It has been proposed that men and males may be gone in as little as 125,000 years (according to Sykes, the author of the controversial Adam’s Curse), and that we may become a new human that can regenerate without the male, as some other species already do! Please read: Size matters: The impending death of the Y chromosome.http://www.scq.ubc.ca/quarterly016/0106lam.html
Thus, evolution all began with the X, the feminine, and the X is the dominant sex chromosome in both sexes, and it shows no sign that it is disappearing.
Psycho-social integration of masculine and feminine attributes
However, saying all that, psychologically we have attributes that are both masculine and feminine, just as we both have the physical hormones oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone. In alchemy, sulphur is the masculine principle, whilst mercury the female. Sulphur and Mercury are also equivalent to Sol and Luna – sulphur, being fiery and active, represents the sun, while mercury, being liquid and passive is the moon. These differences are often reversed in non- European mythologies.
The Taoist Ying/Yang symbol.
In Chinese philosophy, yin and yang describes how seemingly opposite( male and female, light and dark) or contrary forces are actually complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another.
Carl Jung, the 20th century psychologist, who coined the terms archetypes and collective unconscious, said that, the psyche is such that it contains and embraces both the feminine and masculine. And, that it is inherently an androgynous entity regardless of what the gender of the physical person is.
Both sexes consequently, are both masculine(animus) and feminine( anima) primary anthropomorphic archetypes of the unconscious mind. To say it simply, the “anima/animus” is the mirror image of our biological sex, that is, the unconscious feminine side in males and the masculine tendencies in women. The psyche of a woman contains masculine aspects (the animus archetype), and the psyche of a man contains feminine aspects (the anima archetype). Jung said, that we need to integrate both our ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ aspects, in order to be ‘whole’ person, psycho-socially whole, not fragmented. Consequently, we need to love both our feminine and our masculine natures.
The historical subjugation of the Feminine and the rise of Patriarchy
“Many have touched on this subject but it’s rarely directly addressed. Apparently it’s too embarrassing or exposing or some such like. The male dominated hierarchical control system for sure doesn’t like it one bit so you won’t hear much about this.
“Women used to rule whole societies, governments and even epochs of history. Their nature is receptive and fundamentally loving, wise and nurturing. It was not “emasculating” for a male to exist in such a society, as it was governed by love and wisdom and the honoring of all phases of human existence.
What burns my tail is the false historical as well as Hollow-wood movie versions of the feminine role, reinforced by every facet of media and society. It’s infuriating. As if women were here to serve and obey and debase themselves in some subservient capacity. It’s sick and so very wrong.
This ingrained feminine debasement and subjugation is an underpinning that is being not only completely denied, but at the same time perpetrated and flaunted at every level of the social engineers’ programmed agenda.
“And for a definite purpose. To again undercut our source and connectivity to everything natural that sustains our true nature and conscious awareness.
“The divine feminine has been denied at every possible stage. Oh, they honor the beauty of the feminine form and all that, but females have been overwhelmingly portrayed as sex objects and inanimate sources for work, pleasure and satisfaction for way, way too long.
“The war agenda is testament to this machismo-driven, off-base insanity. What mother would ever send her child off to war never mind want to see her child killed by such insanity in some targeted war zone?
“Is that another reason why they’re raping mother earth to death? Is all this a hierarchical play by psychopathic “boys” or entities at whatever vibrational level out to prove their supposed “worth”? No doubt there’s more to the story. It’s spiritual to the core but has massive ramifications.
“All I can say is it’s wrong. Very wrong. And we need to change our ways. All of us. And append this manipulated change toward true loving existence.
“Honor to whom honor is due. The birthing world will be different in many ways because of this paradigm shift. It will happen.”
Zen Gardner ( from his article, The sociopathic subjugation of women).
During the last 5000 years, particularly with the construction of monotheism, and a supreme male godhead, invented for the first time around 1300BC, the world has been predominantly patriarchal, much to the detriment of our natural evolution, women and the environment.
For, example, Hypatia, and Egyptian philosopher and mathematician, was the first recorded woman to make a substantial contribution to the development of mathematics and cosmology, and discovered that the Earth travelled an elliptical orbit around the sun, in around 390AD, 1200 years prior to Copernicus. Instead of being recognized for this discovery, according to an account from Socrates Scholasticus, during the Christian season of Lent on March 415, under the leadership of a lector, named Peter, these Roman Catholic men, raided her carriage, and dragged her into a nearby church, where they stripped her naked, and murdered using ostraka (roof tiles/oyster shells), tore her body to pieces and dragged her mangled limbs through Alexandria, then set them on fire. I think this is fitting description of how many women have been treated throughout Patriarchal domination and female suppression.
Archeologically, we see evidence of the changeover from astronomical, sun and moon worship to sun worship and astronomical worship, around 3000BC, with neolithic observatories, megalithic stone circles and mounds aligned to the sun, and sometimes to some stars. Prior to this time, monuments and megalithic stone structures were aligned primarily with the movement of the sun and predominantly with the moon’s cycles, and also with particular constellations.
The oldest recorded calendar is at Nabta Playa, Egypt made 5000BCE. They aligned their central stones to the circumpolar stars, and the sky’s cardinal points, and when the sun was directly overhead, the stones cast no shadow, and this predicted the coming mid-summer rains, in which they relied upon. Also around 5000BCE we find the first cow monument found in Egypt, the early predecessor of the moon goddess Hathor. Other examples, can be seen with the Carnac stones, France, 5000-3000BCE, Dartmoor, stone circle and temple complex England, 4000-3000BCE ( archeologists suggest that this site may have been used for religious purposes for over 10,000 years, and the earliest stone circle was aligned to the moon’s cycles), Rujum en-Nabi Shua’ayb or Jethro Cairn in Northern Israel c3000BCE. Archeologists suggest that it may have been erected to honour the ancient Mesopotamian moon god, ‘Sin’, one of the most important gods in Mesopotamian mythology, Sin, also known as ‘Nanna’, is symbolised as a crescent moon and is often depicted riding on a winged bull…
Some examples, of sun worship, aligned to the equinoxes, include Stonehenge, in England, constructed, 3100-2000BCE, Newgrange Temple, Ireland, constructed c 3200 BCE, Ring of Brodgar and stone circle and henge, Scotland, constructed, 2500-2009BCE, Scotland, the Majorville Medicine Wheel, in Canada, constructed 3200 – 2500 BC, Peru’s Chanquillo constructed thirteen solar towers, used as a solar calendar around 500BCE, and later Peru’s Machu Picchu’s Temple of the Sun, was constructed around 1400 AD; El Karnak, Egypt, constructed 2055 BCE to 395 BCE, devoted initially to Hathor, then later to to the sun god Re, then Amun, the bringer of light, and in other incarnations, the creator of the universe. The magnificent temple at Karnak celebrates this unity through its enormous pillars, designed in harmony with the Sun and stars over a span of nearly 2000 years.
Historically, also around this time, 3100 BC Namur became the first King of Egypt, when he united both Upper and Lower Egypt, and thus the World’s first Nation state was born. In the case of the earliest Egyptian Kings, being mortal was not enough, and they needed to prove their divinity by exercising complete control over their subjects. Evidence of this can be found at Abydos, where the first Kings were laid to rest in huge subterranean burial chambers, with their courtiers. In the case of King Djer 3rd King of Egypt 3050BC, we find 587 courtiers accompanied him into the next world, as they believed in an afterlife. All the tombs were sealed over at the same time suggesting perhaps ritual sacrifice. Certainly, that power over life and death would give any King God-like status, and for a long time thereafter, the Egyptian people believed in the divine power of the King, that is until King Pepi 11 c2200 BC, the longest reigning monarch, when his old age and fragility showed the people that he was just an ordinary man, and Egypt plummeted into a dark age.
Then, in 2050 BC after Montuhotep 11 reunites Egypt, Thebes rises as the new spiritual centre, where Hathor( goddess of love, beauty, good food and motherhood) rises, as she did from the beginning of Egyptian civilization, and a new era of prosperity reigns in, with women and men enjoying equal status. Then, the Hykos invade and take over lower Egypt 1350-1250, and the Egyptians threw them out, back to Palestine, and the Kings once again ruled and Egypt entered their golden age.
Temple of Hathor at Dendera
What caused this transition from matriarchal to patriarchal? No one really knows for sure, yet evidence stipulates that we were moving from a nomadic existence to one of a more settled, agricultural and larger communal existence, and with that came more social stratification and war.
Christine M Rodrigue Ph.D, has an interesting theory related to this. In her article, The origins of women’s subjugation, she states that a recent investigation of the origins of animal domestication and sacrificial practices in the Near East of 8,000 to 5,000 years ago suggested a novel interpretation of the origins of women’s oppression (An Evaluation of Ritual Sacrifice as an Explanation for Early Animal Domestications in the Near East, Christine M Rodrigue) caused through sedentarization of human groups with the advent of agriculture, the settling down and building of home and communities and the storing of food.
Sedentarization heightened the vulnerability of societies to localized environmental changes and reliance on stored reserves, which carried an inherent risk of instability. The need to amass stores adequate to meet most contingencies exerts pressure on people to exploit their land base in such a way as to increase productivity per unit of land. Population begins to grow in response to this effect and children are no longer the liability they are to roving bands of hunters and gatherers, having become productive assets to settled societies and households.
Sedentary groups increasingly find themselves embroiled in wars. The atrocities committed in war generate intense inter-group hatreds independent of the original stimuli of land expropriation, raiding, and control of trading activities.
As societies became more warlike, women were not allowed to be warriors, as they were more important for child rearing, and thus the demarcation began with,
“the division of labor in such a way as increasingly to sequester women from participation in the public life, even from determining the character of their own personal lives. Weapons in the hands of men are as easily turned to encouraging compliance with newer customs in their interest as to external offense and defense. Women’s status in society began to erode, as men took control over their productive and reproductive activities, property, and naming.” Christine M Rodrigue Ph.D
The debunking of polytheism and the goddess and the rise of monotheism and one male godhead.
In around 1300 BC monotheism, and a ‘male godhead’ was introduced for the first time. This can be attributed to Moses and/or Akhnaten/Amenhotep IV; who may have been the same person according to Ahmen Osman in his book, Moses and Akhenaten: The Secret History of Egypt at the time of the Exodus.
Akhnaten abolished the multiplicity of gods and goddesses and introduced a single sun god, Aten, represented as a sun disk, with hands reaching down to Akhanaten and Nefertiti, his queen, and co-ruler, holding ankhs. Which meant in a nutshell that the only way that people could connect to god now, was through their intermediaries, Akhanaten and Nefertiti. The royal couple, sacked Karnak and its priests and seized the treasury, and then moved their new court to Armarna, which was then called Akhetaten, 400 kilometres up stream, and within 10 years had built a whole new city.
Moses, a prophet of Abrahamic faiths, told the people that there was only one god. He is honoured among Jews today as the “lawgiver of Israel”, and he delivers several sets of laws in the course of the four books. The first is the Covenant Code (Exodus 20:19–23:33), the terms of the covenant which God offers to the Israelites at biblical Mount Sinai. Embedded in the covenant are the Decalogue (the Ten Commandments, Exodus 20:1–17) and the Book of the Covenant (Exodus 20:22–23:19). The entire Book of Leviticus constitutes a second body of law, the Book of Numbers begins with yet another set, and the Book of Deuteronomy.
People in both instances, revolted against this new concept of only one supreme god, as it was so alien to their pantheon of gods and goddesses. In the case of Moses, the old testament talks of people continuing to pray to their idols, and in the case of Akhanaten and his Aten, after Akhanaten’s 17 year reign and death, Akhnaten was deemed a heretic and the city of Armana was destroyed, and the priests went back to Karnak in Thebes, the previous spiritual centre of Egypt, as it was for 2000 years, and their pantheon of gods and goddesses.
Monotheism was reintroduced, with Saul, the first King of Israel, c 1050 BC and still people revolted and protested, until, early Judaism around 1040 BC, introduced the Hebrew god, Yahweh or Jehovah, which remained one god among many (though the only god deserving worship). This halfway house towards monotheism is described technically as monolatry. But by the time the Hebrews are established in Jerusalem, from about 1000 BC, Yahweh is recognized as the only god. This is the beginning of true monotheism – a faith leaving everyone else with idolatry and delusion. This laid the foundations for Judaism, and later Roman Catholicism, which led to forced conversions by newly emerging Christianity in the late 300AD’s, and the abdication of the Goddess in 325AD!
Akhenaten and Nefertiti and 2 of their daughters praying to the Aten,the solar disk God.
In around 400AD Roman Catholic Bishops and Constantinople 1, in their efforts to create the dogma and doctrines of Roman Catholicism, introduced Christ’s resurrection, therefore making Jesus divine. Because of this, some 150 years later, Islam was born, as people were wanting a mortal prophet, not a divine one, although, all three religions, Judaism, Roman Catholicism, and Islam were all based on Judaic scripts and doctrines!
When you think about all the wars, and conflict that have happened in the name of religion, and all the segregation, and fighting over whose Godhead is the true Godhead it is really ludicrous, as all of these three faiths are Abrahamic. An Abrahamic religion is a religion whose followers believe in prophet Abraham and his descendants to hold an important role in human spiritual development. The best known Abrahamic religions are Judaism, Christianity and Islam.
Yet, maybe, there have been times in history when these three faiths got on relatively well, as evidence at the Minaret of Jam in Afghanistan suggests.
The Minaret of Jam 12th century AD, located in Afghanistan
What’s remarkable about the Minaret of Jam, is that the writing on the minaret and archaeological remains nearby strongly suggest that the city harbored a population of Muslims, Christians and Jews. Writing on the minaret is a detailed transcription from the Koran that celebrates the life of Mary, mother of Jesus, highlighting the connections between Islam and Christianity. Nearby there is a Jewish graveyard, which is another hint that people of different religions were living peacefully together. Was this lost city once a bastion of medieval tolerance?
The Debunking and Demonization of the Feminine with the rise of Abrahamic faiths
I think monotheism and a ‘male godhead’ was the beginning of the downfall of our psyche, causing a schism that split our internal world from our external world, between men and women, nature and man, causing much rift and conflict, as the facts in history show us.
History reveals the burning of the library of Alexandria 48 BC (thousands of years of knowledge and history lost) by the Romans, the destruction of the Second Temple(Jewish) 66 CE in Jerusalem by the Romans, who later made it into a Christian temple, which later became a Muslim Mosque.
During the failing Roman Empire, Constantine 1, In 325 AD, called for a meeting of the early Catholic Church bishops to be held in Nicea to resolve some escalating controversies among the church leadership. Thus, at the Council of Nicea( based upon the teachings of Judaism), the early Catholic church bishops and Constantine 1 made Jesus, Christ. The word Chrestos existed ages before Christianity was heard of. It is found used, from the fifth century B.C., by Herodotus, by Aeschylus and other classical Greek writers, the meaning of it being applied to both things and persons. Chrestes is one who expounds or explains oracles, “a prophet, a soothsayer;” and chresterios is one who belongs to, or is in the service of, an oracle, a god, or a “Master”. The Greeks used both the word Messias (a transliteration) and Christos (a translation) for the Hebrew Mashiach (Anointed). The word Christos was far more acceptable to some Pagans who worshipped Chreston and Chrestos.
The story of the ‘Christos’ was also taken from ancient Egypt, and Persia. Ancient Christian texts, referenced the Egyptian god, Osiris, as Chrestos in the Vatican. His son, Horus was created by the virgin birth of his wife, Isis. The Greek god Dionysus, was a descendant of Zeus and a mortal woman Semele, a stark similarity of Jesus, who was a descendant of God and the mortal Mary. The Greek god Dionysus, was considered the God of the wine and could turn water into wine. Also, the god Mithra, who was worshipped in ancient Persia and even by ancient Romans hundreds of centuries before Christ, was also allegedly born on December 25, and once again to a virgin birth. Gerald Berry wrote in Religions of the World: “Both Mithras and Christ were described variously as ‘the Way,’ ‘the Truth,’ ‘the Light,’ ‘the Life,’ ‘the Word,’ ‘the Son of God,’ ‘the Good Shepherd.’ The significance of December 25 in religion is that it is the day when days finally begin to get longer in the northern hemisphere and stems from the days when people used to worship the sun as a God, relating to the Winter Solstice.
Also, at the Council of Nicea 325, the early Catholic Bishops debunked the goddess, got rid of the lunar virgin, mother and crone and replaced the feminine trinity with a masculine one, being the father, son and holy spirit. This led further to the removal of laws and property to women, the making of women as property to men through the institution of marriage (and punishment such as ‘stoning’ to women who did not marry), the introduction of payment to sacred prostitutes, making them slaves to men’s lust and the demeaning of the sacredness of sex.
Hecate – Triple Goddess © Kim Dreyer 2013.
The feminine Lunar trinity: Maiden, Mother, Crone.
The Christian trinity: Father, son and Holy Spirit
By removing women from spirituality, enabled dogma and doctrine written by men to demonize women. This came about by the amendments to the old testament’s Garden of Eden’s paradise creation of humanity story. Originally, God created man and woman equal, then suddenly the story changes, and Adam, the first man is not satisfied with his first wife, Lilith, because she is strong and likes to have sex on top, and he banishes her from the garden, and she begins to have sex with demons. Adam is only satisfied when God creates a woman, called Eve, from Adam’s rib, who is submissive to him.
“Dancing Witches” and demons at a Sabbat. Woodcut from an 18th Century chap-book, held by Ashmolean library.
The icing on the cake which led to the full demonization of women, is topped off with the introduction into genesis of the snake as the devil, who speaks to Eve and tempts her to eat the forbidden fruit in the garden of Eden. By eating the fruit, she becomes the ultimate sinner and tempter of men, as she tempts Adam to also eat the forbidden fruit, which led to them being banished from the garden of Eden. Consequently, women were blamed as sinners- and still are in many respects, as can be heard in derogatory language and terminology- and were accused for men’s temptations, and thus blamed for problems, scapegoated and made to suffer for the mistakes that humanity made and/or the things they did not understand.
Evidently, originally the snake was not a tempter or the devil, he was just a snake in the garden of Eden. A serpent Satan does not make an appearance in Genesis 2–3, for the simple reason that when the story was first written, the concept of the devil had not yet been invented.
The sacredness of female sexuality was debased at this time also, when priests began to pay sacred prostitutes money for debased sex, and women were forced to marry men as virgins, or be prostitutes. The sacredness of the female trinity of maiden, mother and wise woman were perverted to women as virgin mothers- Jesus’s mother conceives Jesus through the holy spirit- thus women needed to be virgins before marriage, or whores.
Prior to their debasement, sacred or temple prostitutes were highly revered and sexual activity was performed in the context of religious worship, perhaps as a form of fertility rite or divine marriage. In these temples, men were cleansed, not sullied, morality was re-stored, not desecrated, sexuality was not perverted, but divine. The original whore was a priestess, the conduit to the divine, through whose body one entered the sacred arena and was restored, she was the doorway to goddess.
Many of the practises that honoured the way of the woman ceased. The Eleusinian mysteries, which had provided immortality, were suppressed; procreation was infused with anxiety and guilt, while joyful fertility festivals which had provided a link between earth and spirit were condemned.
When the priests separated the body from the gods, they separated God from nature, and thereby created the mind/body split. The world became secularised.
This distinction is still an issue with many men, who have problems addressing women as powerfully sexual and often resort to controlling women’s sexuality as ‘playthings’ for their own pleasure without considering her needs, in his need to prove that he is superior sexuality, which is not the case at all! And, women forgo their powerful sexuality, in order to make men feel superior, as that is what they are taught to do and many are afraid to show their true sexuality, as they feel it will humiliate a man’s pride and lead to disastrous outcomes, such as being beaten up, cast out of marriage or a community. Men need to integrate their image of an ideal( virgin) woman with her reality, for when he doesn’t she will be categorized as a virgin or whore, and he will never find happiness or commitment in relationship, nor integrate his own femininity, and become whole himself.
And, it is sad fact that even today, many women still do not orgasm, and are afraid to show men what they enjoy sexuality and to get the full pleasure of their long and sustained sexual orgasm. Many men just use women as a vagina, a well to fill with their semen, and are selfish, in that when their needs are met, they fall asleep or move on.
Women need to educate themselves about their own sexuality, to not feel guilty for pleasuring themselves, and to show men what they enjoy, then and only then, will women get pleasure and release 100% and men will be in awe of her powerful sexuality! Yet, it is up to women to choose when she wants sex, and not be forced into it, physically violated or be made to feel that it is her duty to please her husband/man! It is her body after all, and sex should always be consensual.
For too long, men have controlled women’s bodies, used them for their own pleasure, and it is time to stop this overt sexism and abuse of women’s bodies!
The body is temple for the soul, as the old adage says.
A women takes longer to be sexually aroused, yet when she does, she orgasms much longer and much more powerfully than any man! And, the reason why most heterosexual women do not climax is because they just do what their man wants, that is penile penetration. And, what a woman needs, is intimacy, cuddles, to feel like she is truly loved, body, mind, emotions, and soul. She needs arousal of all body and erogenous zones, nipples, breasts, clitoris, lips, g spot, vagina, everything, not just her vagina.
Would a man have sex without his penis? No! He wouldn’t! So why forget a woman’s clitoris, which has the same amount of nerves as man’s penis, and all of her other glorious body parts?
Other amendments were made during this time of monotheism and the laying down of doctrine and dogma, which made men caretakers of the Earth, in which women were previously, such as,
“Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” Genesis 1:26
This so called man’s right to have dominion over nature, has led to almost the annihilation of this planet, another reflection of rape of the feminine! How much more abuse can the Earth tolerate?
* Research into the effects of fracking on human health remains in early stages, but public health experts say fracking can damage health in a variety of ways, including negative health effects in children. Chemicals used in the fracking process may seep through rocks into underground drinking water contaminating it, and with it destroying whole ecosystems, according to a report from the National Institutes of Health. Fracking can also diminish local air quality as the process releases a slew of toxic chemicals into the air.
The Dirty Facts. We’re drowning marine ecosystems in trash, noise, oil, and carbon emissions. Covering more than 70 percent of our planet, oceans are among the earth’s most valuable natural resources. They govern the weather, clean the air, help feed the world, and provide a living for millions. As a result, collectively, our impact on the seas is degrading their health at an alarming rate.
The early Christian bishops, also introduced Jesus’s resurrection and his “immortality’ around 400 AD, even though there is no mention of this previously in any texts, and historically, the ancient Greek, Latin and Hebrew literature from Homer to the first century AD describe an arsenal of suspension punishments but none mention “crosses” or “crucifixion.”
The first images of Christ and his supposed crucifixion is around 410 AD, with his arms outstretched, and not on a cross. Osirus…Mithras…Chrestos…Christ! They are all linked by the universal ☧ chi-rho and the snake entwined staff of Mercury & Aesculapius, one of the early progenitors of the Christian Cross. The Chi ro [☧] became an important Christian symbol when adopted by the Roman Emperor Constantine in the 300’s AD.
Also, the crux ansata, was the Egyptian cross, which is generally associated with Hathor, the Egyptian goddesss of love, women, good food and joy, and Venus, the Roman goddess of love, and life. E. A. Wallis Budge (1904) postulated that the symbol originated as the belt buckle of the mother goddess Isis. . Thus, the pagan emblems were merely replaced by Christian symbols, and the new testament stories of Jesus dying on a cross were added later. Many scholars say that there is no truly compelling evidence to prove the historicity of Jesus’ resurrection. Yet, by doing so, it gave power to the Church leaders to control the flock and to bring in ever increasing numbers – and by executing people if they didn’t convert- thereby intensifying their feelings of guilt and shame associated with being human, unlike their prophet, who was now immortal. Now, the only way in which people could get to god was through Jesus!
Hathor, the Egyptian goddess, originally of the milky way, then of music, pleasure, dance, good food, beauty and motherhood.
The ancient Egyptian Crux Ansata or Ankh
A Tyet Knot or Isis knot, from the Tomb of Tutankhamun.
The Goddess Isis
Isis is the feminine archetype for creation; she is the goddess of fertility and motherhood. Her name literally means Queen of the Throne.
This new doctrine of Christ being divine, led to discontent among many Christians who were wanting a mortal prophet, someone in whom they could relate too, thus, within a couple of hundred years, Islam was born( which was essentially Christian and Jewish, as they were/are all based on the same texts). This led to further fragmentation of monotheistic faiths and the further subjugation of the feminine, the dark ages, and the raping of the planet.
The Great Witch Hunt of the 15th, 16th and 17th centuries.
The ultimate bastardization, contamination and perversion of the goddess ISIS!
ISIS, arguably the most successful militant group ever, seizing huge chunks of Iraq and Syria, declaring itself a state and governing territory for several years and counting.
Thus, from the forced abdication of the Goddess at the Council of Nicea 325AD, and then again at the Council of Constantinople 360 A.D. and the forced conversions to Christianity and Islam, and the subsequent ongoing crusades between Christians and Muslims, the separation of people through faith continued. Later, with the reform of the Roman Catholic Church through the Church of England( the only real reform being the removal of praying to Jesus’s mother Mary, the acceptance of divorce, as Henry V111 wanted the option to divorce his wives instead of beheading them and the removal of over elaborate Catholic art) and other forms of Protestantism, which led to the 30 Years’ War between Protestants and Catholics, the ongoing wars and fighting ( in Ireland Catholics and Protestants still live in separate neighbourhoods) the further division of Christianity into Pentecostal, Latter Day Saints, Mormons, Jehovah Witnesses etc, and the further segregation of Islam into separate Muslim sects and the battles that still persist today between monotheistic faiths, with the Jewish people generally suffering the most.
Embracing the divine feminine and a more inclusive global ethos
Man, from the band Karinding Attack, which is bringing back deep ancestral knowledge, traditions and music from Java’s deep past, says,
“When Christianity and Islam came to my country, many customs were forgotten, and my country strayed from its path and lost its identity. They forget themselves and their country. People became poor, stupid and culturally deprived. People pray to religion, not God. People have made religion holy, not God. People rarely show the goodness or love of God, in this life, in people, in the World. People are stuck in rituals. They should be more religious and care about each other, nature and God. The inner spirit and wisdom of our deep heritage(prior to Christianity and Islam) appreciates universal humanity without restrictions, and this is what we need to return too.” Man- Karinding Attack
- Things must not be reduced to a single, isolated principle, be it ever so noble or elevated. For always above and all, the whole is at stake. Fundamentalism in whatever form, solves no problems but only suppresses them.
The world is dying, keynesian economics don’t work, and war only begets more war. Yes, the deep feminine, needs to rise! We all need to embrace the divine feminine within us. Men have had 5000 years of leadership and it is now for change!
We can not continue as a species, with the mentality that only promotes war, self-serving, selfish ego-centric ways that grandizes what is fastest, biggest and physically strongest. Just because something is larger or quicker, or physically stronger, does not make it any better. Remember Aesops’ fable of the hare and the tortoise?
How can we change as a global community?
Firstly, we need to reinstate the ‘divine feminine presence’ back into our lives. Women are more important to this planet, as they carry life, give birth to it, look after and educate that life and do most of the fundamental caring and sharing to bring about sustenance and proactive change. It is mainly women at grassroots and at the forefront of peace movements and of the preservation of life!
In Anne Baring’s third talk for Schumacher College which addresses the Awakening of the Deep Feminine and the soul in the world today, and what the image of the Shekinah (divine feminine presence) conveys in the tradition of Kabbalah, she says,
“In the radiant light of the sea that she is, everything is connected to everything else, as through a luminous circulatory system, a limitless web of light. Moreover, the Shekinah is deeply devoted to what she has brought into being, as a mother is devoted to the well-being of her child. The Kabbalah describes the feminine aspect of the godhead, as Mother, daughter, sister, bride, giving woman what she has lacked the last 2500 years in Judeo-Christian culture; the image of the divine feminine in the godhead, that is reflected into the human level itself…”
Anne Baring- Awakening to a new story at a time of profound change: The great challenge of our epoch.
Secondly, we need dig deeply into history and to learn from our mistakes of our past, and make forgiveness with it. We need to look a the social constructions, demarcations that separates men from women, and puts them in societal roles which make them incomplete people.
Research on gender strongly suggests that many of the differences between men and women that we take for granted, are something we are taught rather than something we are born with.
According to Lise Eliot of Chicago Medical School, for example, infant brains are so malleable that small differences at birth become amplified over time through parental and societal reinforcement of gender stereotypes. Girls, Eliot holds, are not naturally more empathic than boys. They just get to practice these feelings more.
By age five, most boys and girls will have internalised the gender roles and expectations taught them by their families, schools, religions and societies. And in many instances, boys will have been socialised for violence by being taught that being a man means being tough, powerful, intimidating, and a stud.
While constructions of masculinity differ widely both within and between countries, it seems clear that some constructions of masculinity increase the chances of boys growing up to become violent men.
Essentially, men and women are more alike than we are different, and most differences are socially constructed, thus we should focus more on our similarities, and embrace our differences, and continue to redefine what it is to be human, rather than what it is to be male or female. No sex should be treated as superior to the other; judgements do not make for kindness, as each person experiences through their own filter of perception, and we are all on this Earth together. Equality is paramount!
The equality symbol
If a woman wants to be a car mechanic because she is likes to work on cars and is mechanically minded, then she does not need to be criticized, nor called a ‘lesbian’ for this, especially, if she is not, as she is providing a service to the community. If a man wants to be a nurse because he is caring and loves to help sick people then he should not be criticized nor called a ‘homosexual’ because of this, whether or not he is or not! We are human, and together we can achieve a lot more, than fighting over who is superior, or what sex should do what!
It doesn’t matter what sex we are born with, or identify with, or what sexual orientation we choose or are innately born to experience. Research indicates that our sexual orientation and our sexual identity is based upon whether or not we are exposed to more oestrogen or testosterone in the womb. Those of us who are exposed to more oestrogen feel more feminine, and identify as being more female, irregardless of whether or not we are born into a female or male body. Those of us, who are exposed to more testosterone in the womb, feel more masculine, and identify as being more masculine, irregardless of whether or not be are born into a male or female body. Then, there are people who are born hermaphrodites, intersex people, who are born with both masculine and feminine genitalia, exposed to equal parts of both oestrogen and testosterone in the womb.
Evidently, bisexuality is prevalent in the animal kingdom — including courtship, affection, and parenting among same-sex animal pairs. As many as 1,500 wild and captive species have been observed displaying homosexual behaviors. This applies to both males and females of all ages and species, from the tiniest insects to the largest mammals, and we humans are animals too!
The recent emergence of the LGBTQ( lesbian, gay, bi, trans and queer) community is a wonderful thing, as it provides a more accepting platform, and challenges our societal masculine and feminine stereotypes.
For too long, men have relied upon women as back up, to do things for them (have their children, look after children, educate the children, do domestic chores and household accounts, look after elderly parents, and neighbours, look after a man’s needs, support a man in business or his job, do most of the charitable unpaid work in the community, and for a huge amount of emotional and sexual security). Women have done the bulk of the work in society, and still do, and men have received the kudos and rewards simply because they are men and because they have earned higher wages and thus a higher status! We should never simply be valued upon how much we earn, as that is ludicrous and so short-sighted. Many of the most important jobs -nurturing and life sustaining- that are done in the World are done from love with absolutely no payment! Men need to value and respect women more, for society would not have been able to move on without them.
Thirdly, many men need to embrace their own femininity, for 95% of their sex chromosomes are female! They are half female and 2.5% male. Why deny the bulk of who you are, just to fit a societal or religious norm, that is not serving the greater good or yourselves? Embrace your deep femininity, then you will be less reliant upon women to provide you with the things that you already have deep inside of you. Because many women are getting bored of your immaturity, and do not want to keep looking after you like a toddler! Having tantrums or getting aggressive, to get what you want is extremely immature. Not, that all men are like this however, as there are men who take responsibility for their actions.
There is nothing wrong with embracing the child within and having fun and being creative and loving, yet when one does not take responsibility for ones’ actions (many men only want to take responsibility for what they earn, and when things get tough they disappear), then men remain infantile Peter Pans, never to grow up! Many men need to stop denigrating women, and themselves, if they act from a more feeling, expressive and creative stance. Using derogatory language, such as ‘he is being a sissy’ or a ‘pussy’ only stifles men’s growth! Using derogatory language to demean women, such as when anyone is a bastard they are called a ‘cunt’, only demeans women! Beating up women, or raping them, does not make men superior, it just makes them nasty and abusive. Enough is enough! Grow up! Men, you are stronger emotionally than you think you are, just embrace your own femininity, and respect women more!
We all have a good side and a bad side, and it is up to us to choose what is right, and to be kind! 🙂
Fourthly, many men need to overcome their sense of entitlement for being men; those laws and societal expectations that came out of religious dogma made up by men, and laws created by men in order to enslave women and give men power and authority!
Our world is one in which social norms grant men authority over women’s behaviour. They encourage men’s sense of entitlement to women’s bodies, spread harmful notions of masculinity and enforce rigid gender roles.
When communities share expectations that men have the right to assert power over women and are considered socially superior, violence against women and girls increases (PDF). It creates a reality whereby men can physically discipline women for “incorrect” behaviour, one where sex is a man’s right in marriage.
These are examples of “social norms”, the unwritten rules which dictate how we behave. They are fundamental in allowing violence against women to flourish. And, it is these social norms which encourage violence against women that need to be confronted and changed.
One UN study found that, on average, men with gender discriminatory attitudes were 42 percent more likely to abuse their partners.
Fifthly, we need to stop the battle for control and violence by men perpetrated by their sense of entitlement, religious and societal norms, and their own desire to have a power trip! For as long as written records, men have fought and made wars, and believed -primarily, through religious, legal and societal dogma- that their sanctimonious superiority to women was true and this has been reflected through attitudes, laws and behaviours.
How many men, use their superior strength as a justification to rape, beat up, pillage and plunder and subjugate women, in order to feel more powerful, just to have a power trip? Where are the ethics there? Have men no morality? Just because you can do it, does not mean you should do it and support it! Even today, domestic violence is rampant across many nations, and there is still a male bias in regards to rape in court!
- Men are the major perpetrators of violent crime. Data from the United States for the period 1980 to 2008, for example, shows that men were responsible for 90% of the murders committed during that period. In fact, the degree to which women are the victims of male violence is truly staggering. Women aged 15 to 44 worldwide are more likely to be killed or maimed because of male violence than because of war, cancer, malaria, and traffic accidents combined.
- The World Health Organization has found that domestic and sexual violence affects 30 to 60 percent of women in most countries. Everywhere, rape often puts the victim on trial. In Delhi, of 635 rape cases reported in the first 11 months of last year, only one ended in conviction. That creates an incentive for rapists to continue to rape, but in any case that reported number of rapes is delusional. They don’t include the systematized rape of sex trafficking. India has, by my reckoning, more women and girls trafficked into modern slavery than any country in the world. This is appalling and so so sad, and changes to laws are desperately needed, in order for every man to be convicted for this crime and pay the price of this injustice, as it should not be acceptable! Only then, will rape and domestic violence diminish.
- Why are men more likely to be violent than women?
2011 arrest data from the USA FBI:
- Males constituted 98.9% of those arrested for forcible rape
- Males constituted 87.9% of those arrested for robbery
- Males constituted 85.0% of those arrested for burglary
- Males constituted 83.0% of those arrested for arson.
- Males constituted 81.7% of those arrested for vandalism.
- Males constituted 81.5% of those arrested for motor-vehicle theft.
- Males constituted 79.7% of those arrested for offenses against family and children.
- Males constituted 77.8% of those arrested for aggravated assault
- Males constituted 58.7% of those arrested for fraud.
- Males constituted 57.3% of those arrested for larceny-theft.
- Males constituted 51.3% of those arrested for embezzlement.
Violence against women and girls: enough is enough!
True strength does not come through brute force, and history teaches us that the oppressor always falls, as all empires have fallen; “pride before the fall”. Anything born of force will not serve the test of time, this is a fact, a truth. True strength does not need to prove itself, nor does it control others in order to prove its strength, as it realizes that true strength is in controlling oneself. When one understands this, there is no desire to control others.
The need to control others comes from an inner place of insecurity, lack and fear, in the mask of a overbearing pride and self-righteousness, in which the individual is so scared of the uncertainties of life, that he/she wants to control external people/events in order to feel in control, and to feel all powerful. Yet, in reality, this is deception, as they deceive themselves into believing that they are superior (they are always self-righteous, and therefore do not want to learn), have a false blown-up pride -self-agrandisement- and defense mechanisms which are compensation for a feeling of emptiness, fear, lack and powerlessness on the inside. If anyone points this out to them, God forbid, they respond with anger, negative words and blame, projections of their own shadow self that they have denied, that they displace and put onto others. Or, they put the walls up and run away, if they have nothing to back up their ignorance!
This is not only unique to men however, as there are many women in denial about the truth of who they are too, because of societal/religious dogma; women can also be narcissist/sociopathic/psychopathic, yet generally the percentage is far less than men.
How many women place huge value upon their external looks (a societal expectation) at the expense of their inner lives? How many women subjugate themselves and their sexuality, in order to please and not offend men, thereby denying themselves their true nature and powerful sexuality, essentially what they need and desire? How many women put everybody else’s needs before their own? How many women appease men by telling them that they are superior, or at least making them think that they are superior, in order not to be beaten or demeaned? How many women look for men to be a wallet for them, hoping to gain material security through his earnings only, therefore denying their own ability to be creative, educated and to earn. Others, become abusers too and sycophants, the classic example being the psychic vampire, who drains others in order to get their own needs met, thereby controlling others, because of her own unprocessed insecurities! This applies to all types of sycophants of both sexes!
As women reclaim their power (which as been on the rise since the the suffragette movement in the late 19th century) there will undoubtably be a backlash against men, as there will be many angry women throughout the world, appalled by their lack of respect and the injustices done to them throughout the millennia; and there will be a rise of some violent women because of this. Most, however, will want their voices heard, and most importantly to be recognized legally, socially and politically. And, on top of this, they will and are acting to create more positive change.
The Me Too movement against sexual harassment and sexual assault began in October 2017 and went viral as a hashtag on social media in an attempt to demonstrate the widespread prevalence of sexual assault and harassment, especially in the workplace.
You can join the Me Too movement here to support survivors and end sexual violence.
Thousands of Turkish women took to the streets of Istanbul on 8 March 2018, for the International Women’s Day demonstration, with the aim of demanding greater women’s rights and denouncing violence against them.
Some women may take on the more aggressive and controlling roles of masculinity in order to prove themselves powerful, in this still predominantly patriarchal world, no matter what some people say about the Patriarchy as dead.
The fact that men still control the the majority of top echelons of business, government, shadow government, economics and the creation of wars, and that most women still take on the brunt of care taking for children, aging parents and the communities in which they live, for little or no money; shows that men still rule and run the current world, in which status and the bottom line of money is everything! Yes, our current economic system needs a massive overhaul, as these thing are not truly valuable.
Sixthly, we need to re-orientate our value systems and economic systems ( where the bottom line is measured by health and happiness, not money), to those that care, love, and nurture whole systems; as clean air, fresh clean water, good nutritious food, healthy people, families, communities and a healthy environment that sustains all, are worth fighting for, as these things are truly valuable, what really matter. Women naturally, are at the forefront of caring for family, children, communities, the battle for land rights, forest conservation, and sustainable livelihoods all around the world!
We can witness the many great women leaders of our time, and I am greatly appreciative and respectful of the many women leaders, like Angela Merkel,German Chancellor, who through her brilliance and negotiation skills with Trump and Putin, is keeping war at bay and keeping the peace, the late Winnie Mandela ( died 4/4/2018) peacekeeper, who fought against aparteid, who worked beside her husband Nelson Mandela, and long after his death, Maj. Gen. Kristin Lund of Norway who lead the U.N. Peacekeeping Force in Cyprus, Jóhanna Sigurdardóttir, Premier of Iceland, Halla Tómasdóttir and Kristin Petursdóttir and other Icelandic businesswomen who lead the Icelandic rescue post meltdown, and how they are determined to reinvent business and society by injecting values of openness, fairness and social responsibility https://www.theguardian.com/world/2009/feb/22/iceland-women and all the many heroines of peace today and throughout history. https://peacekeeping.un.org/en/women-peacekeeping
Please read: The nine nobel women: https://www.nobelprize.org/nobel_prizes/themes/peace/heroines/
If some women take on this role reversal of violence in order to prove themselves viable in a ‘man’s world’, then this is part of the transitional period of challenging stereotypes, and again this is deception, and hopefully we will not get to see too much of this. Because, a complete role reversal in which women rule through force, and subjugate men, will only have the same results that women have already experienced for 5000 years, that of oppression, and abuse of power. It does not lead to any good! Nonetheless, I don’t think this will be the case, as women simply aren’t wired to lead through ego and control, as they are motivated by generosity.
Seventhly, many more women need to be in positions of leadership, in all levels of management, and particularly in upper management, where they are like ‘hens teeth’. The lack of women at the top is described as a “brain drain” and a crisis of “talent retention.” And while female CEOs may be rare in America’s largest companies, they are highly prized: last year, they out earned their male counterparts by 43 percent, on average, and received bigger raises.
Women tend to be better leaders than their male counterparts, finds Gallup. The survey discovered that employees who work for a female boss are, on average, 6% more engaged than those who work for a male manager. (Female employees who work for a female manager are the the most engaged of any group of workers.)
The survey also found that women leaders themselves tend to be more engaged (41%) than men (35%). The Gallup report says womens’ higher engagement levels likely result in more engaged, higher-performing teams.
Researchers at Columbia Business School and the University of Maryland analyzed data on the top 1,500 U.S. companies from 1992 to 2006 to determine the relationship between firm performance and female participation in senior management. Firms that had women in top positions performed better, and their staff were generally more happy, and this was especially true if the firm pursued what the researchers called an “innovation intensive strategy,” in which, they argued, “creativity and collaboration may be especially important”—an apt description of the future economy.
Most studies into middle management women, show them to be more inclusive, and creative than their male counterparts. They are more successful in gaining profits and cooperation from others, as they are generally better communicators, and don’t like to take unnecessary risks (in order to prove their manhood, like men do) nor do they lead through control.
Eighthly, at the crux of it all, we need to make fairer and more caring laws for all, and to implement those laws to manifest in real life situations! Although at face value, many developed countries have made many laws equal, it has not filtered down into reality. Laws which protect women from men’s abuse however, should be strengthened, as well as laws which protect the environment. The word ‘caring’ should be legislated, integral to law, and be the basis for compassionate decision making.
That many developed countries have embraced equality laws, does not equate with equal rights, and the world has a long way to go before justice is truly served. This is because society needs to catch up with equality laws! For example in many developed countries law states that both men and women should receive the same pay for the same work, yet in reality this is not so, and most women receive between 20-40% less then men in these countries.
Yet, in poorer parts of the world and particularly in Muslim countries, laws are still punitive and extremely unfair to women. Please read this article:11 laws from around the world that stand in the way of gender equality https://www.globalcitizen.org/en…
Also, just because something is law, does not make that law apply to real life situations, as in many rape and domestic violence cases which get ignored and the man is sent free, or wealthy, famous, powerful people who get away with crimes: Beyond O.J.: Six Celebrities Who Probably Got Away With Rape And Murder because life is not fair, as there is class, racism, sexism, discrimination of people with mental or physical illnesses, difference in sexual orientation, which is part of society and can strongly effect judges decisions too, if they have a particular bias or world view.
Change is slow, and because of the socially entrenched beliefs, lies, propaganda sexual demarcation and ideologies in which the media, government, as well as religious dogma and doctrine often support, they are so well ingrained within the collective consciousness, it will take time and effort to make positive changes, yet is is happening, slowly.
Conflict will end when we all learn to get along, accept each others differences, and the first place to start is within ourselves, to embrace our own shadows( denied aspects of ourselves) and then we can go work within our families, then communities, then globally.
Do we care enough?
Do we care enough about the world to cap carbon emissions, to tax big polluters, to eradicate the fossil fuel industry, and uranium generators and to use 100% clean energy?
Do we care enough about the animals and plants of this world, to stop extinction?
Do we care enough about women to actually stop violence against women and to make women’s wages equal to men’s wages?
Do we care enough about neo-liberalism and its ill effects on society, communities and the environment, to legislate against the continually rising of corporate CEO’s wages- ‘lions share’ mentality which is making the majority more poorer-and remove loopholes which allow the ‘super rich’ to avoid paying taxes?
Do we care enough about people, to not judge them by their sex or skin colour/race, or sexual orientation?
Do we care enough about government and leadership of countries in order to have equal representation of women in politics, whose voice is much needed in this world!
Most importantly, do we really care about the environment? Because if we don’t, there won’t be a planet to live on! We need to put the environment first in politics, and not vote for any political party that denies climate change.
At a personal level, we can start by really ‘feeling’ things, reaching deep into our feelings, and our intuition, as this connects us to ‘love’ and our ‘spiritual body’, and helps us to know things. We can release ourselves from our fears and doubts(and this includes personal as well as collective), and know that knowledge is the antidote to ignorance. The truth is ‘out there’ and ‘within us’, and we need to learn discernment, not just feed into collective ‘beliefs’!
We can experience ‘beingness’ more, by letting go of our need to continually ‘do’ and be ‘active’, as we can only hear ‘soul’, when we are still and quiet, and this is what gives us ‘inner peace’ and the clues to our purpose in life.
We can spend more time in nature, doing our bit to keep it clean and to nurture it in our own small way. We can contemplate nature’s cycles and the beauty and gifts that are given to us freely.
We can become more caring and giving. We can practice more gratefulness.
We can see and experience the sacredness in all things, thereby abolishing religious dogmas and distinctions that separate people and cause conflict. As the ancient adage says, “all paths lead to god” and we can find god in the stillness of our beating heart, in nature, in the breathtaking expanse of the cosmos, where ever our heart feels happy.
Let’s take this moment to give reverence to the Earth that has given us life, that nurtures us and gives us a home; and let us give reverence to Source, which gave us our essence, the spirit that connects us all. Let’s remember to put the Earth first, directed by our soul and spirit, for if we do not, then there will be no future for this planet!
Just as we all have a Father and a Mother, it makes sense to love all men, women, boys and girls, and the feminine and masculine within ourselves and within others. Just as there is the sun, the moon, and the stars, and nature’s unfolding dance, it makes sense to love and cooperate with all of creation.
In order for the phoenix to rise from its ashes, it is vital that the deep feminine, that has been suppressed for so long rise, and it is rising quickly! Men have had 5000 years of rule, through subjugating and abusing the feminine and they have failed, through their lies, control, dominance, pride, greed and selfishness! Now, it is time for a change of guard, and it is up to women to lead with more inclusiveness, compassion and love.
The 21st century calls for a more feminine approach, and women are on the forefront, taking on the challenges required, when they are not shut out by men (men’s clubs and groups that cause the metaphorical glass ceiling). So, move out the way men! Surrender your pride and unjustified dominance and welcome inclusion, you’ll be much happier, and the world will be a much happier and fairer place. WE can make this world better together, with women at the helm, where she is rightfully meant to be! 🙂 ❤
* A report on the unprecedented role reversal now under way— and its vast cultural consequences: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/308135/
“It’s women’s work.. Oooh, it’s hard on the man, now that his time is over.” Kate Bush
Then, we can start on collective fears related to religion, class, and skin colour and race, for we are more alike than we are not, and distinctions that separate people only create more fear and injustice.
But it all begins with ourselves. We must be authentically true to who we are.
“The courage to be yourself in a world constantly trying to shape you is my personal definition of power.” ― Kristin Michelle Elizabeth, This Will Set Me Free
Ultimately in the greater scheme of things, WE must all be true to ourselves, and embrace the non-judging, caring, intuitive, emotional, creative, unconditional loving part of ourselves and others. Unconditional love and compassion are the keys to our collective transformation, for after all, we are all in this together, sharing ONE WORLD. Let’s do this together with love!
Peace and blessings, Bridget Cameron <3…
“All the queens will gather round
Spreading love and unity so it can be found…” Seal